I'm feeling super frustrated right now about Christmas. Right now all the "adults" in the family are on a list and buy for one other adult each year at Christmas. Since DH and I were married this summer I asked that he be added to the rotation since he is part of the family. I have been trying to get people to add him for at least 2 months and everyone just ignores me.
Finally about 3 weeks ago I sent an email to everyone but my uncle (I don't have his email) and requested they pass it to him. I also asked if my cousins would like to be added since they are 22 now (adults) and they said yes they would like to participate.
I got an email from my sister telling me off about daring to change it, about how she doesn't want to participate and how NO ONE should since she won't. I suggested she opt out but that just made her mad.
I got an email from my aunt telling me off for wanting to lump my cousins with the "married couples" and that just because I'm married doesn't mean they should be treated that way, when I pointed out I had been participating since before I even met DH she accused me of trying to start a family fight. When I asked her to comment about adding DH she failed to respond
Neither of my parents will respond at all, and even though my mom promised to pass it to my uncle I found out she hadn't. I have called my mom several times since she talks to all the people on a regular basis (several times a week) and I don't and she refuses to even bring it up. I'm not sure what to do anymore! The reason that I wanted the situation sooner rather than later is because I started a course yesterday that involves a lot of homework and goes right over Christmas and I wanted to have my shopping done.
After people's initial reaction I am reluctant to call people individually and discuss it since it seems to have everyone all jumpy and honestly I'm sick of all of their attitudes. It really takes away the joy of shopping and finding a gift for someone that they'll really love when everyone is being so difficult.