Sooo... we were married about a month ago. We were "partiers" when we met, going out all the time, drinking, etc. It was a while before we were officially together...then were dating for a year, engaged for a year and here we are married. I am a somewhat reserved person, always in upper management in my career that doesn't allow me to go out with pals from work. I like to have fun, and appreciate intelligent conversation as well as a good drinking night. I recognize the difference between people who are out for themselves and people who truly want to be friends, or at least are interested in something other than themselves. I few closer friends before the wedding, and now they have all but dropped out of my life, despite my efforts to connect, make plans, etc.
My husband has always had a large network of accquaintances, but his true friends are back home in Mexico City. Lots of party friends, transplant from spanish speaking countries to DC, but plenty of people who would throw him under the bus to get what they want. As we went through the wedding planning and everything, we learned more and more about who were friends to us, and who is a friend when it is convenient for them.
As a result, we are now happily married, but we don't have the social network that we used to (his social network) and are struggling to find quality friends. We know it takes time, but we don't know where to go to meet people. We have maybe one or two "couple friends", but it is obvious how we have outgrown the old crew. We are apartment dwellers, not having kids anytime soon, and just want to have a group to watch football with, go out once in a while or take trips with every now and then.
What has your experience been? Did you see any of these changes after you got married? What advice can you give us? As my husband is Mexican, he loves to meet other Mexican, or spanish speaking people. Mostly we are looking for people who aren't worried as much about the next party or cheating on their significant others as they are about living quality lives and moving forward with life.