So I have been married for a little over a month and with my husband for just over two years. We've spent the past two years living together in Boston, even though I am from New York City, and he is from New Brunswick, Canada. From day one, we've always discussed how we would move to New York before starting a family and buying a home.
Whenever I take him to New York for visits he says he loves it- but last night I realized he keeps putting off the move- the job search- the house search. Our initial goal was to move there by September 2010, but since we got married we postponed. He says he's "fine" in Boston and can't we wait another year? He said the same thing last year though!
We talked it out for hours last night and realized that part of it is
that he is very content with his routine, he doesn't love change, and
even though Boston isn't where he wants to settle/raise a family, it's
been his home for the past 12 years.
I was hoping to make the move at the end of our lease in July-and give our 60 days notice in May, which is still a little while away but when it comes to finding jobs and finalizing our housing plans- it's going to sneak up!
I am very much the risk-taker in the relationship and believe that things will be amazing and will work out when we initiate the move, but that if we keep putting it off it's never going to happen.
How would you guys handle something like this?