I had posted recently about having a husband who tends to act very selfish. Always thinking about what he wants, getting a little fussy when he doesn't get his way, not really showing that he cares about things I need or want, etc. So, thanks to everyone who responded to that!
But....this weekend we ended up having a major talk on the subject. It all got started because we couldn't agree on whether or not to take a very last-minute, expensive trip. I'll admit, I'm the very practical half of our marriage. He's more "money grows on trees, live in the moment cause you can't take it with you" half. Usually he sees my point about money, savings, and making smart decisions and I try to see his side of live and let live. But this time his mood seemed very off after we talked about the trip (something he would enjoy much more than I would) and couldn't come to an agreement about yes or no. When I finally had enough of his moping I said to him, "Sometimes I feel like you'd be happier living on your own so you could do whatever you wanted, whenever you wanted to. I want to know if that's how you feel." After some tense conversation, he said that was how he felt. Enter the tears and hurt feelings. He said he loved me the same as always, but he didn't like having to take other people's feelings or opinions into consideration, and that he didn't think he wanted to work on changing that mindset. I was devastated. I told him that he had two options: he could end our relationship, or we could try to make things work. I stayed with friends that night and most of the next day. He sent me a message and said he wanted to go for a walk and talk. When I got home, he looked awful. He had been crying, and still was. He told me that he was so sorry for the things he said, and that he realized he was being incredibly selfish. He said it really spoke to him when I told him I still loved him before I left, and that I would be willing to work on us. He said he realized that life isn't one big party and we have to make sacrifices to make a relationship work. All in all, it was the most sincere thing I've ever heard him say, and since then he's been acting like a new person; a better person.
But now I've got all these weird, insecure feelings (obviously) about our relationship and our future. I know 100% that I want everything to work out, but I don't know the best way to go about making that happen. Obviously therapy/counseling is one option, but I've heard good and bad thigns about it. So (now that my novel is finished) I wanted to see if any of you had experiences in marriage counseling (good and bad) or with any alternatives. Or, any input/opinions in general. Thanks.