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Is anyone still here? I'm having a terrible day

I took my cat to the vet today (not the one that was previously sick) because he's losing weight very quickly.  At first I thought it was because he hated the new food I bought, but this week it became clear that it was something else.  He's soo skinny.  Almost emaciated. 

So anyway, he has a large tumor in his abdomen and he can't eat anything.  Surgery is not very successful, and I can't afford chemo, and he said it would just come back.  He told me he has a couple of weeks left if I can get him to eat kitten milk and really soupy cat food mixed with water. 

I brought Star home and gave him the food, and he ate a bunch of it, but a few hours later he just threw it all up. 

I'm beyond upset.  I think I'm going to bring him in tomorrow to be put to sleep.  He's basically starving to death in front of me.  I was hoping to keep him through the weekend so I could spend time outside with him, but I think that's just too cruel. 

I've never done this before, and I have no idea what to expect, or what to do.  Part of me just wants to bring him there and run away, but I feel like I should be there with him.  After me passing out while watching my dog getting his nails cut, I don't think I'll make it through this. 

I don't think I'll ever get anymore pets after this.  Its just too hard. 

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  • I'm here, Maine. 

    Its hard to lose a beloved pet.  I think you should do what's best for you and the cat.  If you feel you can't handle the emotional stress of being there when they put him down, then don't stay.  Part of me wishes I had been there when my cat died, but part of me is happy that I wasn't.  My last memories of him were good memories, when he was happy and healthy.

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  • I've had to put a cat and a dog to sleep.  And that's what it is.  They go to sleep and nothing hurts anymore.  I chose to stay with both of them.  Their last view was of me.  I was the last person to touch them, to pet them, and I like to think that it made things easier.

    I am probably totally deluding myself but it makes it easier to bear.  I am so sorry that you have to go through this.


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  • I'm so so sorry Maine. ::hugs::
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    sorry about your kitty

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  • I'm so sorry Maine. It's never easy to have to make this decision Left Hug
  • Oh Maine!! I'm so sorry!!! One of my kitties had a stomach tumor as well. Not a fun thing (((hugs)))
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  • What do I do with him after?  I have this awful picture in my head of them giving him this gas that makes him convulse or something, and then them taking him and just throwing his body on to a pile with other poor dead kitties.  Now that I'm faced with it, cremation sort of gives me the creeps. 

     

  • They can take him away and have him cremated or you can.  You could also probably bury him in a corner of your property.

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  • Aw, Maine. This made me tear up. I'm so sorry about your kitty. I haven't had to put a pet down yet so I can't give you any advice. One of our friends had their cat cremated after she was put down. They had her ashes put in a pretty wooden box with her name engraved on a plaque on top. Big hugs to you and your kitty!
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    I chose to stay with both of them.  Their last view was of me.  I was the last person to touch them, to pet them, and I like to think that it made things easier.
    I did this too.

    I asked to take my pet with me. She was in a garbage bag - which was hard to see. But the actual death was very peaceful.

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    They can take him away and have him cremated or you can.  You could also probably bury him in a corner of your property.

    My mom buried my cat under one of the trees in her front flowerbed.  He always loved that flower garden - almost as much as he loved hanging out on the front porch.

    This is where he is:

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  • I'm so sorry, Maine Left Hug
  • So sorry Maine. You'll be in my thoughts. ::hugs::
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  • That's so sad, Maine :(  {{squeezes}}
  • I'm so sorry, Maine!  I know what you're going through.  It's very hard to watch having your pet put down, and whether or not you want to be there is only a decision you can make.  And there's nothing wrong with not wanting to witness it.  It doesn't make you a bad kitteh-mommy.  At all.  I can understand wanting to end your kitteh's pain.  I always think about the quality of life, and if he's not keeping anything down and everyhting else you described, I would be leaning towards doing it sooner rather than later.  Again, I'm really sorry.  Left Hug

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  • Oh, my heart is breaking for you! Left Hug

    I'm so sorry, but you're doing the right thing :(

  • I'm so sorry, Maine. I know this is an extremely hard thing to go through.

    *hugs*

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