My SS is 5 (soon to be 6 - just started kindergarten). DH and i have been married a little over 3 months, but i've been on the scene for a while now.
i grew up with both parents in the house, and my friends who had divorced parents spent most time with mom (every other weekend with dad if that), and i wasn't close with any who had stepmothers. One friend who had a totally non-existent dad had a pretty great stepdad, but honestly, i didn't think about it much at the time.
My point? If you had a stepmom growing up, what did she do right? What did she do wrong? What did you *wish* she had done differently?
This is all very new for me, and sometimes it's *really* hard. DH and the ex are back on relatively civil terms after her ill-fated attempt at suing for full custody last year. (There were no grounds other than her wishes). There is an every other week arrangement (and has been since they split). All that to say, she's a volatile question mark and doesn't make this any easier, really.
Would very much appreciate your help and/or advice.