If you have a dog and were invited to someone else's house to stay would you automatically assume that you could bring your dog?
Currently DH and I do not have a dog, but have had them in the past, but when we would visit someone, we would have someone watch our dog or make some kind of arrangements.
MIL just got a Doberman and its a great dog, but she is upset with us because we are not allowing her to bring her dog when she is coming to visit us. She just got the dog in July and was supposed to visit us in April (changed he plans many times and now the new date is fall time). We just bought a house and have gutted it and replaced the floors with hardwood. We do not want her to bring the dog and have it running through our house scratching the floors, the puppy is also in its chewing stage and we also have a brand new leather couch and other furniture. In addition, I'm slightly allergic (nothing bad, I just get stuffy, but I can take meds for it) and we really just don't want to put us in a situation where something could happen to our floors or furniture.
We also invited MIL to thanksgiving that we do with friends and some of my family, where we rent a house and all stay together for that week. We hadn't hashed out the details, but we had mentioned that there was a no pet policy and that 2 of the people that go every year are allergic to animals. She accepted, but said that they would be bringing the dog, and went on to say how everyone would love the dog and how much the dog would love being there with family and with us for the holiday.
Don't get me wrong, I really like the dog, but I don't think its appropriate to just assume to can bring it to someone's house or to a rental house (where you only know 4 of the 15 people that are going). She is now upset with us and saying she isn't coming to our house this fall or Thanksgiving. I feel terrible, but on the other hand, am not comfortable having a large dog in my house and there is just no way she can bring the dog to thanksgiving.
Am I wrong for telling her no?