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Post wedding depression

Months and months of planning, shopping, hoping, trusting, and the day comes and .... the dj didn't show up, so the replacement is coached all night.

We used a dj service for our wedding that dispite warnings that the owner was rude and treated his employees badly, and the owner saying horrible things about the person who referred us to him, an ex employee, we engaged their services believing them to be professional. The dj did not show up and the hall followed up and we were sent a technician as a replacement after cocktails, our own entrance and diner had already begun. In our follow up with the owner we were insulted, and told that a grand entrance where the bridal party is introduced with music was not necessary and it was implied it was excessive and grandiose and not done until recent years, and insulted in several ways and treated rudely and not provided with any portion of refund or compensation, only an apology that it was too bad for us. Honestly, I am beyond insulted after the injury, by all of the things he said and his completely dissmissive atttude. There was no Quality in that company. Not this time or the wedding I attended where their equipment shorted out and the music ended shortly after dinner. Between the two weddings I haven't heard them play a full evening. So my ears are still ringing from the way he spoke to me and didn't try to make right.. I want to move on and move into honeymoon mode but the wedding was so much work and the insults were so personal I am a bit stuck. Anyone else have post wedding depression in the early days? What are the best ways to get through?

Re: Post wedding depression

  • First,  contact the Better business bureau.  Second read your contract.  If there was supposed to be a DJ there for a certain length of time then they have to either be there or refund the difference.  

    THat being said,  it's over now, you are married, for now enjoy your HM and the important part isn't the DJ it's that you got married!  Think about how you felt during the ceremony and hang onto that,  the DJ while a PITA and something you should deal with, shouldn't put a black mark on the whole day.  

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    First,  contact the Better business bureau.  Second read your contract.  If there was supposed to be a DJ there for a certain length of time then they have to either be there or refund the difference.  

    THat being said,  it's over now, you are married, for now enjoy your HM and the important part isn't the DJ it's that you got married!  Think about how you felt during the ceremony and hang onto that,  the DJ while a PITA and something you should deal with, shouldn't put a black mark on the whole day.  

    I agree with Sammy.  It totally sucks that they did that and the owner was a complete jack a$$ to you.  Hopefully there is some way to get some money back from them.  Just try to remember the rest of the great day.  Your family and friends being there for you and your new husband.  Congrats!!

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  • My best advice is to move on. Wedding is one day of your married life, thats it. I had tonnes of things go wrong on my wedding day and honestly I didn't care because now I was married to the man of my dreams and I couldn't wait to see what life had in store for us. I did post a couple bad reviews of the vendors that did a crappy job on wedding websites etc and it made me feel ALOT better. I suggest you do the same.  I have never heard of a wedding going perfectly without error whether the guests realize it or not.

    Congratulations on your marriage!

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  • To me, the post title and the post were very different to me. 
    I feel like I suffered from a tad of post wedding depression too. Like you said at the beginning, it was an event you looked forward to and planned for so long, when it's done you kind of don't know what to do with yourself and feel like you just have "life" to look forward to and not this big event. It took a good 2-3 months after the honeymoon before I felt back to normal and really myself (happy & satisfied) again.

    But none of this had anything to do with a DJ or any particular event at the wedding for me. Maybe you feel it's connected because the DJ turned out to be crappy but maybe your feelings of depression are not related to your anger at the DJ. In any case, that really sucks about your DJ but oh well, you do have to move on after all. If you're on your honeymoon definitely enjoy it, and the way I combatted the "depression" is to start coming up and planning future things I could look forward to! Congrats on the wedding! 

  • I totally hear you! We had our MC get so nervous and leave after the intro to puke!! I mean why did you agree to do it if you cant do public speaking? It was my husbands brother, although my sister said she would do it cause she has MC'd many times before. Bad MC, bad evening? Yup, I have never felt so angry and embarrassed in my life. My BIL ruined it all and Im still miserable about it! Stories my family and friends shared with him to share with everyone wernt told and the evening became an unorganized disaster. Yes I will get over it eventually...when I make chaos at his wedding somehow, lol. But I hear you. Its your day and something rained on your parade. We will get over it but in the mean time it is nice to vent to someone isnt it?

    Cheers 

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