Mom and Dad?
Mr. and Mrs. Lastname?
While we were engaged, I asked my future ILs how they would like me to address them. They preferred Mr. and Mrs. Lastname, but said we'd talk about it again after the wedding.
Now that we are married, it seems weird calling them Mr. and Mrs. Lastname because at family gatherings, everyone else addresses them by their first names. I wanted to also call them by their first names because to me it feels like we are friends and all adults. So I asked again, and now they want me to call them Mom and Dad. MIL felt first names would not convey respect when there are grandchildren around someday.
The problem is I don't feel comfortable calling them mom and dad because to me, only my parents are my mom and dad. My MIL said she asked her friends and apparently, according to her survery, everyone uses Mom and Dad or Ma and Pa with the last initial for their ILs.
So, what do you call your ILs? Any other suggestions (MIL said she was open to other suggestions)? For now I've decided to stick with Mr. and Mrs. Lastname since they aren't comfortable with first names and I'm not comfortable with mom and dad.