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He's gone

J is officially at basic training. I'm still trying to find my BGP, so if any of you happen to have an extra pair I'll take them. I have plans to keep myself busy, Jesse and I start doggy training the 21st of July, my best friend and I are planning a trip to laurel highlands PA, and my parents want to take me to a casino now that I can legally gamble in the US (I never illegally gambled in the first place btw). School will start in August then he'll graduate soon after! So, I'm staying positive and not banking on anything for a few weeks (I know it'll probably be sooner but I figure I'm better off if I don't get my hopes up for a call soon).
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  • aww, i'm sorry hun. i'm with you. B's still gone at school.

    He graduated OTS last friday. now he's at his transition program.

     

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  • You're both in my thoughts. : )

    Along with the staying busy, write letters! Lots and lots of letters. For me, writing letters was my way to stay sane while A was gone. Sometimes I wrote 3 a day, but there was always one in the box to go out. He also really appreciated the letters.

  • I thought the first three days were the hardest. I cried in front of my SIL during the second day and she laughed at me. Ever since then I kept my tears to myself.

    It's hard because he's not only gone but this starts a whole new life for you guys. It gets better, I promise. It just really, really sucks right now. 

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  • The first few days are the hardest I think. It will get easier I promise! Just keep yourself busy. Something that helped me was to write to him every night about what I did that day. That helped him to because he knew what was going on even if he couldn't talk to me.
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    It's hard because he's not only gone but this starts a whole new life for you guys. It gets better, I promise. It just really, really sucks right now. 

    this!

    i re-read my post and i sound like a DTS. i'm sorry hun.

    If you need to talk we're here for you! you can do it!

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    I thought the first three days were the hardest. I cried in front of my SIL during the second day and she laughed at me. Ever since then I kept my tears to myself.

    It's hard because he's not only gone but this starts a whole new life for you guys. It gets better, I promise. It just really, really sucks right now. 

    Yes! to the bolded. It's rough going to bed (since he had to go up to MEPs last night) we've only slept apart 3 times in 4 years. And then we may be screwed on BAH since I'm staying with my parents.

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  • image Mrs.Rotty:
    image LemonLover33:

    It's hard because he's not only gone but this starts a whole new life for you guys. It gets better, I promise. It just really, really sucks right now. 

    this!

    i re-read my post and i sound like a DTS. i'm sorry hun.

    If you need to talk we're here for you! you can do it!

    First, what's  a DTS? And Second, don't worry, I like hearing "success" stories, keeps my head up and telling myself I can make it, it's only 9 1/2 weeks!

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    image LemonLover33:

    I thought the first three days were the hardest. I cried in front of my SIL during the second day and she laughed at me. Ever since then I kept my tears to myself.

    It's hard because he's not only gone but this starts a whole new life for you guys. It gets better, I promise. It just really, really sucks right now. 

    Yes! to the bolded. It's rough going to bed (since he had to go up to MEPs last night) we've only slept apart 3 times in 4 years. And then we may be screwed on BAH since I'm staying with my parents.

    night time is the hardest for me. that time after dinner till i fall asleep is the worst for me.

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    It's hard because he's not only gone but this starts a whole new life for you guys. It gets better, I promise. It just really, really sucks right now. 

    this!

    i re-read my post and i sound like a DTS. i'm sorry hun.

    If you need to talk we're here for you! you can do it!

    First, what's  a DTS? And Second, don't worry, I like hearing "success" stories, keeps my head up and telling myself I can make it, it's only 9 1/2 weeks!

    Dirty thunder stealer.

    i stole your thunder.

     

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  • image Mrs.Rotty:
    image ajh2010:
    image Mrs.Rotty:
    image LemonLover33:

    It's hard because he's not only gone but this starts a whole new life for you guys. It gets better, I promise. It just really, really sucks right now. 

    this!

    i re-read my post and i sound like a DTS. i'm sorry hun.

    If you need to talk we're here for you! you can do it!

    First, what's  a DTS? And Second, don't worry, I like hearing "success" stories, keeps my head up and telling myself I can make it, it's only 9 1/2 weeks!

    Dirty thunder stealer.

    i stole your thunder.

     

    Got it, No problem,  I don't got too much thunder now anyway, just a lot of rain.

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  • Right now it sucks. But I promise, it does get better. If you find it hard to sleep at night, change up your routine a bit. It sounds weird, but it works. I started reading every night, before going to sleep. Something so simple makes a difference.

    It's great that you have things to look forward to. It helps to pass the time. Keep yourself busy, write a letter everyday. Journal, take up a new hobby, you know the drill.

    Hugs for now, and it does get better. 

  • Don't worry about you feel right now. It's normal. I found that I worried because for the first time he was encountering day-to-day challenges and stress, and I couldn't be there all the time to cheer him on and give him advice. I had to trust other people to look after and support him the way I would. They did the most amazing job of it too!

    Make sure to write lots and lots of encouraging letters. I realize it's a tad dishonest, but if you have worries or concerns, try to downplay them. Be upbeat and positive. He'll really like that. Encourage family members to send letters and cards as well.

    Don't worry about your BGPs today, you'll find them soon I promise. One of my favorite things to do to make the transition to an empty house is leaving the TV on or a movie running in the background. I don't know why, it just helps me.

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  • I need to get to the bookstore to get some new books to read, I want to buy a journal but can't find any, any ideas where to go?

    I also scrapbook, and I have  a TON of pictures from our wedding and our honeymoon. And apartment hunting will start some time between november and January.

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    I need to get to the bookstore to get some new books to read, I want to buy a journal but can't find any, any ideas where to go?

    I also scrapbook, and I have  a TON of pictures from our wedding and our honeymoon. And apartment hunting will start some time between november and January.

    a book store is going to have journals. I blogged alot through my deployment.

    oh and i thought this was funny so i thought i'd share it with you.

    when B left my mom's advice was "its easy to sit on your butt and let yourself get fat. DON'T DO THAT!"

    lol. oh the joys of my mother. hahahahahaaha

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  • image ajh2010:

    And then we may be screwed on BAH since I'm staying with my parents.

    Even if you stay with your parents, you will get BAH (rent or no rent). While in BMT/unaccompanied school it will be where YOU are and then after that it will be where he is stationed.  

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    a book store is going to have journals. I blogged alot through my deployment.

    oh and i thought this was funny so i thought i'd share it with you.

    when B left my mom's advice was "its easy to sit on your butt and let yourself get fat. DON'T DO THAT!"

    lol. oh the joys of my mother. hahahahahaaha

    I really need to hit a bookstore.

    I don't wanna get fat :) I actually want to lose weight by his graduation and I'm sure Jesse will help me with that since walks aren't in her vocabulary runs are (and I CAN'T run worth my life). I also don't have much of an appetite yet so that'll help slightly.

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    The other girls are right.  The first part is the hardest.  I'd like to agree with LL that the first 3 days were the hardest (and they definitely were), but I thought the whole first week was difficult. 

    Write him letters and neither one of you will regret it.  He will love to hear what is going on with your day, even the small things, and you'll feel connected to him.  You'll find your groove soon enough.   As for the appetite, mine still isn't back to normal so good luck!

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    The other girls are right.  The first part is the hardest.  I'd like to agree with LL that the first 3 days were the hardest (and they definitely were), but I thought the whole first week was difficult. 

    Write him letters and neither one of you will regret it.  He will love to hear what is going on with your day, even the small things, and you'll feel connected to him.  You'll find your groove soon enough.   As for the appetite, mine still isn't back to normal so good luck!

    I'm glad to know I'm not alone with that. I just don't even feel like eating (I know that's awful) I'm just ready to get this week over with and get an address.

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  • Start writing letters and STAY POSITIVE FOR HIM! Be his rock - he'lll need it.
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    image ajh2010:

    And then we may be screwed on BAH since I'm staying with my parents.

    Even if you stay with your parents, you will get BAH (rent or no rent). While in BMT/unaccompanied school it will be where YOU are and then after that it will be where he is stationed.  

    Thank you, everyone at MEPS gave J the run around about it today. Some said we needed a list, some said my (or his) name HAD to be on a utility. I will be giving my parents money for bills (planning on making the mortage while I'm here with the BAH so I wasn't sure what to do).

    He never believes me that I already read on here that we didn't need to show a lease for BAH, I always tell him to trust the military nesties... one day he'll understand the power of this site.

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    Start writing letters and STAY POSITIVE FOR HIM! Be his rock - he'lll need it.

    I am, I wrote him a note and included it in his card telling him how proud I was and how I knew he'd do great and that these weeks will fly by faster than either one of us will believe. I also gave him pictures of us on our honeymoon and us with Jesse.

    I really just don't know what to write, I don't do anything to interesting.

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  • Write him about *anything*. Seriously. He will be sooo glad to hear about anything other than what he is doing wrong and getting smoked. Just being reminded that there is a light at the end of the tunnel (being with you again) will help keep his head straight.

    Also, get other people to write him too. Your parents, his parents, siblings, anyone. My H was a little disappointed that no one was writing him but me (didn't feel much support). I had to give people a bit of a nudge to write him, but now that they are receiving letters back from him I think they feel like they've helped make a difference.

    Try to stay strong. The time goes by really fast... you will be booking hotel rooms and flights in no time. At night when I start to miss him, I just think about what he's doing right now (either fire guard or passed out drooling on himself) and what he did today. I am so happy it's him crawling around in with the ticks in the mud and not me :p

  • D left for BMT last week, he's officially in Week 1! I got to my parents for a week yesterday. I need this R&R BAD! I also have no apetite, leave th TV on and when I can fall asleep I wake constantly.
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    image ARMYmarriedNAVY:
    Start writing letters and STAY POSITIVE FOR HIM! Be his rock - he'lll need it.

    I am, I wrote him a note and included it in his card telling him how proud I was and how I knew he'd do great and that these weeks will fly by faster than either one of us will believe. I also gave him pictures of us on our honeymoon and us with Jesse.

    I really just don't know what to write, I don't do anything to interesting.

    Tell him what you had for lunch. (You do still need to eat, appetite or not) Tell him something silly you heard on the radio. Whatever stupid stuff goes on in your day, tell him. I would send pages of just ramble to DH and he loved it. He just wants to hold that letter in his hand.

    Even now while H is in Afghanistan, I still tell him the stupid stuff. A silly joke, whatever. I took a pic of my lunch and emailed it to him, just to make him smile. Trust me, he won't care as long as you are writing. 

  • My husband said he did not like it when I wrote about food because he was so hungry in BMT. 
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  • image LemonLover33:
    My husband said he did not like it when I wrote about food because he was so hungry in BMT. 

    Ok so maybe not food exactly, but you get what I'm saying. lol. 

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