My ex-husband and I came to the conclusion that we wanted to end our marriage last June.
We told our families about our plans to divorce in December.
In March, I received an email from my former MIL, asking about my current relationship and demanding that she still see her granddaughter (my daughter) regularly. I politely told her that my relationship status was really none of her business, but that I am always thinking of my daughter's safety and well-being first and foremost, and that she need not worry about that. I also reassured her that I would never intentionally cut her out of my daughter's life. (My own mother passed away in 2007, the day before I found out that I was pregnant with my daughter -- Why would I stop her from seeing her grandparents who ARE still alive? Especially since my former MIL and I always got along when my ex and I were married. But that's a different rant, for a different day.)
My former MIL and I have smoothed things over, and we get along as well, now, as we ever did.
However, because of the email from my former MIL, I sent an email to my ex-husband's brother and sister, asking them to please not discuss what was happening in regards to my divorce, because it has nothing to do with them.
From that email, I received a nasty reply from my former SIL. This resulted in my sending an email back to her (not a nasty one, just an email). One of the points that she made in one of her emails was that my ex and I had "hidden" our divorce from his family for six months, and that was akin to seeing notes of congratulations, notes about doctor appointments, etc. on her Facebook profile for months and her finally revealing that she is pregnant by saying "oh, by the way, I'm seven months pregnant" or "oh, by the way, we have another kid, now." I pointed out to her that comparing a pregnancy and a divorce is like comparing apples and oranges. We sent a couple more emails back and forth, ultimately smoothing things over as well as I think they're ever going to be, and she and I haven't spoken since.
I never got a reply to my original email from my former BIL, but it is my understanding (from what my ex's sister told me) that he was "egging her on" and that he hadn't sent a response because she had so well articulated the things that he wanted to say.
This all happened back in March. Fast forward to last Wednesday: My ex's sister announced that she is, in fact, expecting another child (her daughter is almost 7). Her due date is at the beginning of December. This would mean that she either was already pregnant when she sent those emails, or that she got pregnant shortly after sending them.
Wednesday night, I was jealous (because I would like to have another child, but it doesn't seem like it's in the cards for me). Thursday morning, the jealousy had faded and I was livid.
So I ask: Am I out of line for feeling the way that I feel, given that she did not announce her pregnancy immediately, as she expected us to have done with our divorce? I know that I should just let it go and, for the most part, I have, but I still feel the slightest twinge of wanting to send my former SIL an email congratulating her on her pregnancy and telling her what a shame it is that she's such a hypocrite.
And I'm done venting, now.