I have had the amazing blessing of having a great family-in-law. My husband's parents and ten siblings are the most incredible and loving people, and I am so lucky to have them in my life! I love them with all my heart!
However, there are times when my MIL acts as if I am one of her kids...in a bad way! The moment I step foot in their home, she immediately starts assigning chores to me, and ordering me to do stuff in the kitchen, etc. There are times she even scolds me or gives me a sharp answer, just like she does with her children!
I am FINE with helping out; I love my MIL, and she has a lot on her plate with all those kids. (DH is 22, and the oldest. His next eldest brother is 20, married, and lives elsewhere. All the other kids, from ages 18-3, live at home!) However, I am not one of her children, and I want to be treated like an adult member of the family, not like one of the little ones!
I have talked to DH about it, and he agrees that it is not right, but doesn't exactly know what to do about it. I am getting very frustrated...!! MIL is not the easiest person to talk to about hard, confrontational issues like this one...plus, I'm not good with confrontation with most people!