Please help me! Am I being unreasonable to be upset about some actions my MIL has taken? The trouble actually started 2 years ago and has been buildingever since. My DH and I have been married 4 years as of Wed. I have a DD from a prior marriage. She is almost 11 and DH has fully accepted her and she considers him her "real" dad. MIL and FIL were great with her until 2 years ago when I got pregnaant with our son. Summer of 2006, MIL tells DH that she is taking "all" her grandkids to MI to see my oldest BIL and his wife. Please note, oldest BIL and wife are perfect and can do no wrong. Their daughter is the fave grandchild. Anyway, we were excited because we were building a new house which was supposed to close 2 weeks before my due date and we had some work to do. We knew DD would be bored and this trip would be a great alternative for her. Anyway, turns out the trip only included my middle BIL's kids. My DD was not included in the trip. I was mad but did not say anything. When she came back, she diod have what she called "Cousins' camp" and my daughter was invited. My DD was very excited as she really likes her cousins. The kids all stayed the week with MIL and the Saturday after this, some of my DH's close friends were hosting a babyshower for us. My parents drove in and my parents and my DH and I all stayed in a hotel as MIL's house was packed with kids. SIL from MI also flew in for shower and to pick up her DD. Sat. AM, my parents and my DH and I had breakfast together before heading to MILs house. The hotel we stayed at was clear accross town from MIL's house but she got mad that we did not invite her to breakfast with us. Later that AM, before the shower, I took my DD out for a snowcone to find out how her week had gone. She started crying and told me MIL had been mean to her and made her do a lot of chores while the other kids did not have to do anything. She also stated MIL spanked her several times when it had not been her being bad. I was LIVID but again kept my mouth shut. I later told DH about it and he also got very mad. We left after the shower and I did not have much to say to MIL for some time. Fast forward to Sept. We moved into new house over Labor Day weekend, whih was also my birthday. I was hugely pregnant, it was hotter than hades and I was tired. MIL threw a huge fit because I would not organize MY new kitchen how she wanted it. I had also spoke to my DH about wanting to be the first to use new kitche. I mean, how often do you get a brand new kitchen? I wanted to break it in. Well, school was of course starting and DD needed clothes and supplies. DH suggested she and I have a mommy/daughter day. We went shopping and got mani/pedis and had a fun time. Well, we come home and my MIL is in my brand new kitchen frying chicken on my new ceramic top stove. Grease is everywhere. She had also taken the liberty of re-arranging my kitchen so she could reach everything (I'm 5'11, she is 5'0). Again, i was furious but chose to ignore her instead of saying things I might regret. I did not eat her meal. I went to my bedroom and did not come out for the rest of the night. They went home the next day. A week later, I went into labor. They were called and came. MIL and FIL had been told waaayyyy in advance that no one was going to be in the delivery room but DH and I and DD would be the first visitor. When MIL got to hospital, she threw a huge fit when the nurse would not allow her into the room. She KNEW she would ne be allowed until after DD had got to hold baby 1st. We also got a huge surprise in delivery as 2 sonos, one at 36 wks, indicated baby was a girl. "She" came out with extra parts. MIL was mad that she was not the first to know. At this point, I just don't care anymore. I am thrilled that we have baby boy as we both wanted a boy. MIL threw one of her very typical "I am just going to leave and never come back" fits when I asked her to leave at 9 PM thst night. I went into labor at 9 PM the night before and I was tired. I wanted sleep. So, when she said the I am just going to leave thing, I said "There's the door, don't let it hit you on the way out." That shut her up. So things are bad at this point. Anything I should have done differently? I will continue story in next post.