So the other day, a friend from college posted on FB about seeing a pregnant woman smoking at an amusement park. One of her friends commented that she would've walked up to her, snatched the cig out of her mouth, and given her "a dressing down" about how stupid she was being.
I made a comment that while yes, she was being stupid, please don't think that it's okay to do this to a pregnant woman if you wouldn't to anyone else. To me, that's assault, and a pregnant woman is not automatically public property. She likely knows what she's doing is not healthy, but it's not illegal, and it's up to her doc/husband/family/whoever to say something, no a complete stranger.
Of course, everybody started talking about how she shouldn't be doing it in public if she doesn't want input, she's abusing her baby, etc. ad nauseum.
What do you ladies think? Maybe it's because I'm currently pregnant, but I think that just because I am does not give you the go ahead to verbally assault me based on a decision that I make as a parent (I broke it down to it not being about the smoking, but about the decision she made).
I've had people tell me I was being irresponsible by taking a sip of wine (even though my doc is ok with a glass here and there after the first trimester), comments on how much weight I'm gaining, telling me not to pick up my toddler because I'm hurting the baby (right, try NOT picking him up), I shouldn't clean, shouldn't eat certain things, shouldn't be driving, etc. At some point, people need to realize that just because pregnancy is obvious, it is not a request for public opinion.
Am I wrong?