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I'm a little shocked...

at the PS about cheating on your husband.

We've all been married the same amount of time....It breaks my heart to even think about that situation.  

I may be stepping on toes, or eligible for flames for this...but oh, well. 

Why did you get married? If you weren't satisfied with your H, then why did you make a legal, physical, emotional, and spiritual commitment to him? I feel like shaking you and screaming HELLO! MARRIAGE IS OPTIONAL! No one forced you into that commitment, and how dare you break it. I understand that I don't know the full story or blah blah blah...but I don't care. Cheating is cheating is cheating. It's wrong. 

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  • Yeah, my jaw dropped when I saw that PS this morning....
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  • I am also completely shocked. Whomever this is, it really seems like they have some issues and if you want to make your marriage work at all, I suggest that you and your husband go to counciling. If it's true, like in your post that you care more about your friendship than the marriage, then maybe you should think about divorce. Your poor husband :(

     

  • Ditto PP and I must say I am floored by TK PS as well. Very juicy and surprising...
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  • Honestly... 7 months into your marriage, and you're already sabotaging it??  Judgey McJudgerson here, but why the HELL did you get married in the first place??!
  • Yeah, some of the TK ones are ridiculous. A lot of them seem really prideful, slutty, judgy and self-centered.  A couple of the niners do too, but we've got nothing on the ridiculous that is the TK PS.  Wow.

    Oh, and if you're already cheating on your husband.... just stop.  You have self-control.  Utilize it.  the PS makes it look like you told him, i'd love to know how he took it. 
    although the garter and stockings in the PS are HOT.

    Also - i totally talk to Osi like he's a person.  When i was still unemployed and we were home alone during the day together, i'd actually ask him to help my carry things upstairs... than have to laugh at my own craziness.  I used to talk to him when i'd take him for walks too... i know, insane.

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  • yeah, i just saw that one and my jaw totally dropped.  And you don't even sound remorseful or regretful or anything.  I also feel sorry for your husband.  I guess (trying to find some positive) I'm glad you told your husband rather than keeping it from him

    You think it's the same person who cheated while engaged?

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  • Yeah, that one stopped me, too. Seriously. She almost sounds like she's bragging. I wonder if it's sincere or the poster knew how we'd all react? I guess I would rather believe that than cheating 7 months into a marriage. Tho I know that happens too.

    Well, the floodgates have been opened on the an*l sex PS's, that's for sure!

    I can't see TK PS. Do you need a login? I click on it and nothing happens.

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    You think it's the same person who cheated while engaged?

    That was one of my 1st thoughts.

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  • image shmoo-lou:

    at the PS about cheating on your husband.

    We've all been married the same amount of time....It breaks my heart to even think about that situation.  

    I may be stepping on toes, or eligible for flames for this...but oh, well. 

    Why did you get married? If you weren't satisfied with your H, then why did you make a legal, physical, emotional, and spiritual commitment to him? I feel like shaking you and screaming HELLO! MARRIAGE IS OPTIONAL! No one forced you into that commitment, and how dare you break it. I understand that I don't know the full story or blah blah blah...but I don't care. Cheating is cheating is cheating. It's wrong. 

     

    Totally agreed. I can't even imagine..none of us have even been married that long so it seems nuts to me to already be cheating and have secrets and lies in the marriage. 

     

    Also, maybe I missed it but where are The Knot Post Secret's coming from? Is it a particular board? Or all of TheKnot? How did it start?

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    Also - i totally talk to Osi like he's a person.  When i was still unemployed and we were home alone during the day together, i'd actually ask him to help my carry things upstairs... than have to laugh at my own craziness.  I used to talk to him when i'd take him for walks too... i know, insane.

    Oh I totally talk to my dogs.... All. The. Time.  We both do...

  • TKPS is mostly people on P&E, but it did catch the eyes of AFSB and WW, so I wouldn't be surprised if they are sending some in also - and for those reasons I'm pretty sure some are fake.  But it's not as though I can do anything about that, and it's not hurting anyone, so *shrug*
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  • The cheating one is pretty shocking, but I'm sure there were problems going on in that relationship before the marriage, so I think the length of time being married has nothing to do with it.

    It's sad, but I'm glad she at least came clean to her H.

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    The cheating one is pretty shocking, but I'm sure there were problems going on in that relationship before the marriage, so I think the length of time being married has nothing to do with it.

    It's sad, but I'm glad she at least came clean to her H.

    I agree 100%.

    Rach, we see eye to eye on a lot of things! :)



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  • My jaw drops at a lot of these....

    but, sometimes I think there may be some fakies in there, just to make for interesting conversations. Or at least that's what I hope for some of these....

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    TKPS is mostly people on P&E, but it did catch the eyes of AFSB and WW, so I wouldn't be surprised if they are sending some in also - and for those reasons I'm pretty sure some are fake.  But it's not as though I can do anything about that, and it's not hurting anyone, so *shrug*

     

    Thanks! I was just being nosy :o)

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    IUI# 2 - 5/4/12 - BFN

    IUI# 3 w/ Clomid - 6/4/12 - BFN

    IUI# 4 w/ Clomid, new donor - 7/5/12 - BFN

    IUI# 5 w/ Clomid & trigger shot/Novarel - 8/3/12 - BFN

    ~Cycle Off~

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  • image SMorriso:
    image rach83:

    The cheating one is pretty shocking, but I'm sure there were problems going on in that relationship before the marriage, so I think the length of time being married has nothing to do with it.

    It's sad, but I'm glad she at least came clean to her H.

    I agree 100%.

    Rach, we see eye to eye on a lot of things! :)

    :)

  • I could never imagine feeling the need to cheat on someone. It just makes me sad.

    I don't feel shock. I feel pity.

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  • True. I didn't think about the possibility of it being a fakie. 

    I really truly hope it is. 

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  • image SMorriso:
    image rach83:

    The cheating one is pretty shocking, but I'm sure there were problems going on in that relationship before the marriage, so I think the length of time being married has nothing to do with it.

    It's sad, but I'm glad she at least came clean to her H.

    I agree 100%.

    Rach, we see eye to eye on a lot of things! :)

    I also agree!  Then again, like aortiz, I think it could be fake because of the very strong opinions stated on the board regarding cheating.

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    image SMorriso:
    image rach83:

    The cheating one is pretty shocking, but I'm sure there were problems going on in that relationship before the marriage, so I think the length of time being married has nothing to do with it.

    It's sad, but I'm glad she at least came clean to her H.

    I agree 100%.

    Rach, we see eye to eye on a lot of things! :)

    I also agree!  Then again, like aortiz, I think it could be fake because of the very strong opinions stated on the board regarding cheating.

    I think that translates to me as people being fake about cheating as to not 'out' themselves. Reverse psychology type thing.

    I feel have a bit more realistic views on cheating than a lot of my friends. Also about marriage too. Which makes me sound super vain, but I seek out regular counseling so I'm prepared with things that actually affect couples on a regular basis. When we did our survey for pre-marital counseling, I scored more realistic, and Anwar scored more romantic/idealistic.

    I do think that some of the PS could be fake though.



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  • image heyxu:
    image SMorriso:
    image rach83:

    The cheating one is pretty shocking, but I'm sure there were problems going on in that relationship before the marriage, so I think the length of time being married has nothing to do with it.

    It's sad, but I'm glad she at least came clean to her H.

    I agree 100%.

    Rach, we see eye to eye on a lot of things! :)

    I also agree!  Then again, like aortiz, I think it could be fake because of the very strong opinions stated on the board regarding cheating.

    I was beginning to wonder if some of these PS's were fakes just to see if we'll discuss them.

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    image shmoo-lou:

    True. I didn't think about the possibility of it being a fakie. 

    I really truly hope it is. 

    See, and I while I think its awful, and can't imagine doing this.....

    I truly hope it ISN'T a fake. I think PS should be MUD-free. And it would make me really angry if it wasn't. I think its a great outlet to share some stuff anonymously and therefore be able to discuss it....but if people start submitting fake stuff it becomes a "who can top THAT!" kinda thing. Totally defeates the purpose.

    I agree. And why would you make up a fake PS about cheating anyway???? I don't think that's something you joke about or say just to start a conversation.

  • image D74LeadinLady:

    I was beginning to wonder if some of these PS's were fakes just to see if we'll discuss them.

    I was wondering that too, especially when the first cheating PS came out.  Then the default one.  If they serve you with a complaint if they should decide to go ahead with foreclosure, DH is going to find out anyways, especially if they come to your house (and chances are they will, and if you aren't there, they go to your work.  They find you.) 

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  • image SMorriso:

    I think that translates to me as people being fake about cheating as to not 'out' themselves. Reverse psychology type thing.

    I feel have a bit more realistic views on cheating than a lot of my friends. Also about marriage too. Which makes me sound super vain, but I seek out regular counseling so I'm prepared with things that actually affect couples on a regular basis. When we did our survey for pre-marital counseling, I scored more realistic, and Anwar scored more romantic/idealistic.

    I do think that some of the PS could be fake though.

    Yes, that could also be true.  I'm not surprised that people have cheated/are cheating but something about the frequency of shocking ones versus the number of people who post makes me question it .  Then again, the people who send PS aren't necessarily regular posters either.

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  • image JillianAshley6:
    image shmoo-lou:

    True. I didn't think about the possibility of it being a fakie. 

    I really truly hope it is. 

    See, and I while I think its awful, and can't imagine doing this.....

    I truly hope it ISN'T a fake. I think PS should be MUD-free. And it would make me really angry if it wasn't. I think its a great outlet to share some stuff anonymously and therefore be able to discuss it....but if people start submitting fake stuff it becomes a "who can top THAT!" kinda thing. Totally defeates the purpose.

    I agree. And if the cheating one is real, that is really sad that you are more worried about your friendship than your marriage.

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  • This whole thing is very sad... I feel bad for the husband and I think its sad that they are already having issue in their marriage. 

    I am a firm believer that everyone has issues in their marriage at some point or another but cheating is the worst thing you could possibly do to a person.  You loose that trust and love and you can never get it back no matter how hard you try. 

    I hope things work out for whoever posted that.

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    image JillianAshley6:
    image shmoo-lou:

    True. I didn't think about the possibility of it being a fakie. 

    I really truly hope it is. 

    See, and I while I think its awful, and can't imagine doing this.....

    I truly hope it ISN'T a fake. I think PS should be MUD-free. And it would make me really angry if it wasn't. I think its a great outlet to share some stuff anonymously and therefore be able to discuss it....but if people start submitting fake stuff it becomes a "who can top THAT!" kinda thing. Totally defeates the purpose.

    I agree. And if the cheating one is real, that is really sad that you are more worried about your friendship than your marriage.

    This. I have no sympathy for cheaters. It was a choice, just like marrying your husband was.

  • Upset I missed this. 
  • image JillianAshley6:
    image shmoo-lou:

    True. I didn't think about the possibility of it being a fakie. 

    I really truly hope it is. 

    See, and I while I think its awful, and can't imagine doing this.....

    I truly hope it ISN'T a fake. I think PS should be MUD-free. And it would make me really angry if it wasn't. I think its a great outlet to share some stuff anonymously and therefore be able to discuss it....but if people start submitting fake stuff it becomes a "who can top THAT!" kinda thing. Totally defeates the purpose.

    I'm a little late... but I half hope that these are real because we should be able to put our feelings out here and not try to be topped by MUD... but I also really hope some of these are fake. I can't believe there are so many ladies here that are unhappy with their marriage... And I really hope whoever cheated recently gets it worked out... not sure why some of you got married if you wern't planning on being with your H's forever.

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