My DH is drawing too much energy from me. First of all, I have to remind him to do this or to do that, or else it will not get done. It's like he is not a self starter at all, and most of what he starts he never finishes. My DH has no problem with giving me money to help pay bills, but he never ask questions about if we have enough to cover our monthly expenses or ask if the bills have been paid or not. It frustrates me because I think he should show that he is concerned with how our expenses being handled. I feel that I am the one under all the pressure, because he walks around with this happy go luck attitude as if nothing is bothering him. My DH drops our daughter off at daycare each day, and instead of him asking the caregiver if our daughter need any supplies...he just leaves, while the daycare calls me to tell me that our DD will be out of formula and diapers by noon. I don't feel that the daycare should have to tell him, and that he as a father should show concern and ask if DD needs anything.
My DH works one full-time job (which allows him flexibility), and I work a full-time job, taking 18 online college hours, and attend an academy from 5-10pm at night. I'm trying to secure financial stability for my family, and I feel that DH should be a self-starter without me having to initiate his everymove. It is nerve racking when you have to constantly tell a person to do this or to do that...It's like when am I going to be his wife. I almost feel like I'm playing all three roles...a part-time wife, and a part-time mom, and the husband to him.
It's like I'm loosing respect for my DH as a man, as a father, and as a husband. DH is a great guy, but the quality that I'm looking for in a man which is responsibility, self-starter attitude, self motivator...he doesn't have those qualities...He will promise me the world, and say that he will start taking care of business...it will last for a week and then it goes back to the same old habits....I'm getting tired of talking, and stressing, because if he doesn't get it now, then I'm not sure he ever will....The question is do I have the energy to deal with this forever with hopes that he will change, or give up on the man I love?