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Cheating in the digital age

We're working on a piece about how infidelity has changed with Facebook, email and texting in the picture.  What's your take -- do you think it's easier or harder to get away with it in the digital age? 

Has anyone you know ever caught their partner cheating by stumbling on their browsing history or seeing something suspicious on Facebook?

Re: Cheating in the digital age

  • IMO cheating isn't on the rise because of things like fb and texting. There is just more of a "paper" trail so more cheaters are getting caught.
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  • image Mycrimsonheart:
    IMO cheating isn't on the rise because of things like fb and texting. There is just more of a "paper" trail so more cheaters are getting caught.

     

    THIS

    It's easier to get caught because stuff on FB, texts, etc. don't go away easily. My BF has caught her H cheating based on FB and explicit text messages on his phone. 

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
  • This subject hits very close to home for me right now. I think that Facebook, email, and texting all make it easier for a false sense of intimacy to develop. So you can begin texting someone, IMing them, etc. and talk all through the day that way, even while you're living your daily life, and even if that person lives 3000 miles away, you can feel very close to them based on all of these ways to connect.

    I think that means that these new technologies can make these relationships easier to develop, BUT I also think that new technologies make it much much easier to catch someone. I know of a situation in which a woman downloaded spyware onto her H's Blackberry, so that all of his text messages were uploaded to a website that she could access with a password. That way she was able to determine that the contact he was having WAS inappropriate and not work related as he had told her.

    There are also things like keystroke loggers, and even spyware for phones that will send you a text message when your "target" person calls a specified number. Then you can call the target phone and you'll be silently patched in to the phone call so you can listen in. Crazy!

     The bottom line, for me, is that the person has to be trustworthy and have a good character, and if they do, none of these things will matter.

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  • image sapphireblue:

    This subject hits very close to home for me right now. I think that Facebook, email, and texting all make it easier for a false sense of intimacy to develop. So you can begin texting someone, IMing them, etc. and talk all through the day that way, even while you're living your daily life, and even if that person lives 3000 miles away, you can feel very close to them based on all of these ways to connect.

    I think that means that these new technologies can make these relationships easier to develop, BUT I also think that new technologies make it much much easier to catch someone. I know of a situation in which a woman downloaded spyware onto her H's Blackberry, so that all of his text messages were uploaded to a website that she could access with a password. That way she was able to determine that the contact he was having WAS inappropriate and not work related as he had told her.

    There are also things like keystroke loggers, and even spyware for phones that will send you a text message when your "target" person calls a specified number. Then you can call the target phone and you'll be silently patched in to the phone call so you can listen in. Crazy!

     The bottom line, for me, is that the person has to be trustworthy and have a good character, and if they do, none of these things will matter.

    Yes 

  • Seems like, at the very least, more people are told about the cheater's shenanigans after the discovery.
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  • I'm not sure about actual cheating, but cyber cheating and online porn certainly is a potential stumbling block in today's marriages.
  • I caught my (then) fiance` having a sexting relationship with 2 ex girlfriends. It was easy for him to delete the text messages-he covered his tracks well. It was the naked pictures of the girls that he could not part with as easily.  Dont get me wrong, the pictures were well hidden in his blackberry but I dug and dug until I found something.

    I think technology makes us more aware that infidelity is out there, more on edge and looking all the time.  What ever happened to the day that you knew your H/W was cheating by not coming home at night.

  • It turns into a huge problem bc I have talked with many people who rationalize it by stating that "I'm coming home to you at night so what's the big deal". It is becoming a HUGE problem that needs to be dealt with.
    First Time Mom To Be
  • Technology is good and bad.  I caught my DH haveing a emotional relationship with a friend through texting/email from his phone.  He would bring that phone everywhere with him and would delete message right away.  One day he was on the computer and I went and checked his phone to find a message and confronted him on it.  I think it's too easy to be caught up in the technology and thinking it maybe harmless at that time not realizing what you are getting yourself into.
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