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how do you no if you o

I know this sounds crazy but I am not sure I have ever had a O how do you know this? Please NO dumb and rude anwsers

Re: how do you no if you o

  • The sensation is quite obvious.  You would know if you had one.
  • Sounds like you have felt something during your sexual encounters, so that is where you should start.  It is time to masturbate to orgasm.  Trust me, once you know where you are going (have an orgasm) getting there again in the future is easy.

    When you masturbate, get to the point where everything feels really good, and keep going.  Then when you get to the really really good feelings, keep going.  Keep going when it doesn't even seem possible to continue -- when every muscle is clenched and it feels like your head will burst.

    Then this wave of pleasure will spread from your center out to your toes and head and then back again.  It feels great.   

  • image mrskels09:
    I know this sounds crazy but I am not sure I have ever had a O how do you know this? Please NO dumb and rude anwsers

    You've evidently never masturbated.

    I suggest you start right now.

  • When you have one, you will know.

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  • A parade of unicorns and puppy dogs will run through your house- throwing candy and beads and milkshakes in celebration.
  • You should have an orgasm as soon as you see peen. I guess you only like the womenz.
  • I usually pass gas everytime. I would think that's a pretty good sign.
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  • My husband tells me when I've had one, he does all my thinking for me.
  • I know when i have one i get on all 4's and howl at the moon....have you ever done that?


  • mrskels09,

    First let me state ? if you have to ask, you haven't had one.  They're pretty unmistakable and hard to miss.  You would know if you had had one.  Trust me.  Now I suggest you begin exploring your body that is your sexuality.   I'm truly amazed that you have never masturbated yourself to an orgasm.  After all your DH is not going to bring you to an orgasm if you don?t know what make you feel good or brings you complete pleasure.

    Foreplay is the key to your satisfaction with your DH.  You must be completely receptive to him having intercourse with you.  It is highly possible that you will never reach as orgasm through intercourse alone ? only about 8-10% of all women ever reach an orgasm this way at all.  It comes about using lots of foreplay.

    Sometimes trying another position helps ? if you're using only the missionary, then try woman on top, or the coital alignment technique (CAT).  He is the link which describes how to do the CAT:  http://www.womenshealth.org/a/coital_align_technique.htm

    An orgasm when you experience one ? in itself feels very good, like waves of pleasure rippling from the center of your body to your toes.  Your vaginal walls will clench, your thighs will tense and then it will feel like your body exploded.

    Now keep going, even when it seems like you can't take it. Perhaps you will need a good erotic story or some porn to keep the momentum until you climax.  Have a glass of wine to relax.  Remember, the female orgasm is a vital part of the human sexual experience ? process.

    Do you see all the fireworks that follow the tingle that relaxed feeling that leaves you breathless when it happens ?.  Now you go for it!

    I am sure that you have experienced that yummy tingling buildup when you have touched yourself or when your DH has performed oral sex on you.  Rub your clitoris with your finger.  If you aren't exactly sure where your clitoris is, take a look at this site (NWS) and it will help you find it.

    http://www.3dvulva.com/

    You can get a vibrator then use it.  But you don't need a vibrator, necessarily, but you do need to work out what works for you, probably by yourself at first.  Then you can find what you need so you can start showing your husband ? getting him involved so he too can help you find other things that work in this process.

    When you *do* get there, you'll know.  Sex is way more fun that way.  DH and I were virgins when we got married, but we?ve had many, many orgasms together once I found the trigger to that pleasure in me.  He was giving me one after another once we got the moves right.  Now!  Go have fun!  Try something different.  Go have fun with it!  Ok!

    ~~Emily~~

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  • You mean when you got pregnant with your twins you didn't have one?  Confused
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  • Thumbs up to Smithleye's answer. I'm still new to this board, but I'm a little shocked at how many people take the time to answer serious questions with stupid/sarcastic/irrelevant answers. I mean, I enjoy cynicism, too, but it's a little ridiculous here!

    I remember reading online "when you have one, you'll know" before I ever had one, and it was so frustrating. It's much more helpful to get a general description of the experience.

    I definitely agree with the others who've said you probably need to explore on your own to best figure out what works. I didn't know anything about the clitoris until like 5 years ago! (I'm 25.) But it is definitely a woman's best friend in reaching the climax. Most women need stimulation there.

    So far, I haven't been able to get there without a bullet vibe. You can find good ones on Drugstore.com, for very discreet shipping. I highly recommend the Doc Johnson 7-Function bullet. http://www.drugstore.com/products/prod.asp?pid=185049&catid=89404&brand=47511&trx=PLST-0-BRAND&trxp1=89404&trxp2=185049&trxp3=1&trxp4=0&btrx=BUY-PLST-0-BRAND&cmbProdBrandFilter=47511 Very inexpensive, and fun! I recently had to replace mine after a year of having my first one, because the cord can eventually start to not work at the base of the bullet. But I'm going to be more careful about not holding it by the cord. I've tried a few others, but this one is worth it even if it has to be replaced in another year.

     Happy exploration!

  • image emmypants:
    You mean when you got pregnant with your twins you didn't have one?  Confused

    I was just thinking the same thing. They say that some women have their first O while they are pregnant. Maybe if she hasn't had one yet, she never will.

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    Thumbs up to Smithleye's answer. I'm still new to this board, but I'm a little shocked at how many people take the time to answer serious questions with stupid/sarcastic/irrelevant answers. I mean, I enjoy cynicism, too, but it's a little ridiculous here!

    ::pats AmandaM84 on the head:: you're so cute when you are a newbie!

  • Nah, I just think I'll stick to another forum where they're actually helpful when I want other people's input on my questions/problems. But I think I will stick around here for times when I can give feedback.
  • image mrskels09:
    I know this sounds crazy but I am not sure I have ever had a O how do you know this? Please NO dumb and rude anwsers

    And to KNOW is K N O W.  Thought you'd like to be in the NO.

  • *jumps up and down*

    Yay, we will be so very lucky to have you here. Don't know how we managed so long without you!



  • image magsugar13:

    *jumps up and down*

    Yay, we will be so very lucky to have you here. Don't know how we managed so long without you!

    Yeah, it's not like NO ONE ELSE said the exact same thing you did.

  • That one from smithleye gives some great starting points.  So let me add that I highly recommend this book in addition ?I <3 Female Orgasm? ? I feel you will find it very helpful in your quest for the ?O? you want to have from DH! 

    As to your DH giving you one I think he will be able to so if you teach-train him well as to what makes you get off.  You know what I mean ? GL ? Go to it!  Have some fun with your self ? then with him!  OK!!!

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  • trust us when we say, if you ever had one- a real one, you wouldn't have to ask.
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  • Agreed with the general consensus that you'll know if you've had one. However, I remember it being frustrating, too. Can you talk to your husband about this? Seriously, though, get a vibrator! You'll know what one is soon :)
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  •   For a lot of people no O is more mental then physical

  • I agree that it is frustrating to hear that "you'll know" when you haven't had one.

    You'll know, because all that sexual tension builds up, and then once you're more excited than ever, it will suddenly release with an uncontrolled, rhythmic motion. It's like your vagina and cervix clench up.

    I also agree that it helps if you masturbate, and try to relax. Focus on the sensations that you enjoy, but do not focus on trying to orgasm. If you get too worked up about it, it will never happen. Just lay back, and enjoy the ride!

  • For me, I can only have one through clitoral stimulation. Literally I feel like it's going to explode, followed by muscle twitching in my arch's of my feet, following by minor spasm's inside my vagina. and then i want to pass out. I suggest you buy a vibrator and try it out. Try clitoral stimulation. For many women, penetration doesn't do it.

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