This is long....Before getting in engaged to my FI (Dec 2007), we had a lot of plans/things that we were focused on (buying another home, investing in real estate, getting his business going) Once we got engaged all of those plans were pushed to the back burner. My father turned ill, so he is no longer working. My FI and I are helping with the cost of the wedding (Limo, invites, lighting, decor, linens etc). Lately I am feeling like our "celebration" doesn't take priority over the plans and things that are super important to us. We currently live in the 2BD townhome I bought when I was 21. Its way too small now for the 3 of us. On top that it needs work! I want to really focus on getting us in another home, that we love and can find peace in. We have been trying to do both but reality is ITS NOT POSSIBLE,we are to marry in MAR 2009. I love this man to death but I want to have security and some type of foundation and I feel we are all over the place. My 1st question is has anyone gone through this and what did you do? 2nd, how do you break the news to my bridal party and guest? My pride is getting in the way because now I am fearful what people might say. I am just so unhappy that what was important to us a 9 months ago is going to be pushed back for us to put money towards our wedding. We have to live after this day you know. I am feeling so much pressure that it is affecting my relationship with my FI, because I am moody. SORRY SO LONG, I am just lost! I feel postponing is the answer for us, I dont know!