June 2008 Weddings
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Need some honest opinions...

I posted a mont or so ago about being a bridesmaid in a wedding and the MOH planning things without letting anyone else know. She didn't end up taking any of my suggestions for other possible shower venues and booked her parents' restaurant anyway (after not even responding about my suggestions).

The shower is April 11th, so I sent a message to her and one other BM on facebook asking about invitations. I made one on vistaprint, so I sent them a pic and asked if they wanted me to order them. She just responded saying that the bride's mother bought the invitations and they were mailing them out tomorrow. I'm fine with the fact that her mom chose the invitations already, but why didn't I even know they were being sent out? I would've liked to help writing them out/addressing them, etc. I'm really upset that I'm being kept so out of the loop with the whole thing, so here is my response to the MOH.

Ok, that's cool. Just let me know what I can do! I want to be a part of planning the shower, but I can't if I don't know what's going on. I know there are 7 of us, so it's hard to keep everyone in the loop all the time, but Jessica's my closest friend and I really want to be a part of planning these things for her. :)

Does it sound b!tchy, or am I out of line? Please be honest!

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Re: Need some honest opinions...

  • I don't think it sounds b!tchy at all. I think you are getting your point across in a polite way. I'd be tempted to sprinkle in some expletives, so you're a better woman than I.
  • I agree - not b!tchy at all. Go ahead and hit "send." Smile
  • I think you sound fine, but if they dont make the effort to let you be a part of things there isnt much else you can do, while keeping the peace and with out coming off b!tchy.
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    I think you sound fine, but if they dont make the effort to let you be a part of things there isnt much else you can do, while keeping the peace and with out coming off b!tchy.

    That's true. Maybe if that happens you could offer to help the bride some other way. Let her know you'll help her address thank you's or something like that.

  • image trickeytricky:
    I think you sound fine, but if they dont make the effort to let you be a part of things there isnt much else you can do, while keeping the peace and with out coming off b!tchy.

    Yeah, I hear ya. I want to try to keep the peace as much as possible, but at the same time, I don't want to be kept in the dark about everything. The bride is my best friend and she did so much for my wedding. I just want to be able to do those same things for her and the MOH just isn't letting me do anything. I'm really upset about it. :(

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  • I don't think it sounds b!tchy at all. Just sounds like you REALLY want to be a part of this even if its only a small part.
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  • Definitely doesn't sound b!tchy.
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  • I don't think it sounds rude or bitchy at all...but your message is clearly sent.  I thnk it's great.

  • I'm probably waaay too late, but I agree that it doesn't sound b!tchy at all. I like pp's suggestion of offering to help the bride (directly) do something else since you've been so left out. I totally understand wanting to be a good friend like she was to you during your wedding/planning!

  • I'm way late too, but I agree it doesn't sound bitchy. If anything you sound more sad than bitchy.
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  • Thanks for the comments/advice, ladies! I sent the message last night and also sent a picture of an idea for shower favors. The MOH had mentioned wanting to do bookmarks for favors a few weeks ago, so I found a site that allows you to personalize bookmarks. I designed one that I think is cute and sent to to her, but I'm fully expecting to get a message back that says, "Oh, I already bought those..." I guess we'll see.
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