Luckily DH and I have very similar views on the holidays. Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve and Christmas Day are strictly for families and New Years is kind of a time for us to get together with friends.
For a little background, FIL is divorced and retired at 49. He has lost contact with or pissed off his old friends so the most contact he has with people is with DH and I and Dh's bro and his fiancee. DH's bro and fiancee do not have many friends because they both work a lot. So again they mostly hang out with DH and I.
Anyways....I guess a week or so ago FIL casually mentioned to DH that BIL wants us all to do something for New Years. DH said we were so busy with Christmas that he didn't even want to make plans for New Years yet. So he forgot about it and never said anything to me. And since then hadn't heard anything more about it. So the other day while at FILs for a post Xmas party I got a call from a friend asking if we wanted to come down for a small party that she wants to have if her fiancee is not working. I told her I would run it by DH but that I thought it would be ok.
I mentioned to DH that evening that we had an invite for New Years that sounded good. (Admittedly I said this purposefully in front of FIL so he heard that we were taken already on New Years) and he immediately said "Well talk to BIL on Tuesday so we can finalize our plans for New Years" This has had both DH and me looking at him like, "Whaaaat??" DH didn't want to start something so he just said we'll see. FIL brought this up again as we were leaving and Dh said we'll have to just see what is going on. I know that their plans include coming over to our place and ordering pizza and watching tv until midnight...I have no intention of hosting people on New Years. I hosted a Christmas Party and Christmas Day breakfast...I feel I have reached my host quota...
I really don't want to spend New Years with them. We just spent 3 full days with them! I think the best thing is for DH to explain that we made plans with a friend already and to leave it at that.... We are just concerned that this will cause a rift in the family but I think we should be allowed to make plans with people other than family for some holidays... DH never made definite plans with them but I don't think that is how they see it. *sigh* I guess we will just have to brace ourselves. Is just saying we already have plans the best response we can give them? I know this might not seem like a huge issue but it is really irritating to me so I hope I don't come off sounding too childish or whatever. Anyways...I just needed to vent so thanks for reading!