Sorry ladies for hitting a sore spot and getting defensive (and sounding crazy b/c I didn't use the 'quote' button)
I hope that most of you didn't get upset and can instead laugh at the crazy that was me (cold meds and PMS don't mix well with me I guess)
I'll try again a different way. How do I handle being invited to stay the weekend at SIL's new house (housewarming/belated turkey day) when I don't feel comfortable there? Anytime I am around her she goes out of her way to alienate me. I do try to ignore it and instead pay attention to the other family members, but it can be difficult to say the least, especially since her family is aware of it when she's doing it, tries to force her to include me and/or giving me sympathic/apologetic glances. I have asked DH to stay at his parents instead that weekend (down the street from SIL) but he feels this will upset SIL, and I don't want to do that, but I also don't want to be uncomfortable/unwelcome where I am sleeping. I don't think that not going is an option. Is there a middle ground that I'm not seeing? A way to please her and feel comfortable where I'm at?