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Sex at the inlaws

My husband always wants to have sex when we are at his parents house, we have our own room but i just feel weird about it.  Do you "do it" at the inlaws?

Re: Sex at the inlaws

  • Yes, we do.  But they don't care.
  • Of course.  Unless you're sleeping on a pull-out couch in the living room, what's to feel "weird" about? 
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  • Yes, we do. Embarrassed It feels naughty.  We stay off the beds though- don't want the noise and don't want to make a mess.  Usually use the floor.
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  • Yep, we've done it. Quietly.
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    Of course.  Unless you're sleeping on a pull-out couch in the living room, what's to feel "weird" about? 

    I just don't know if it is disrespectful?  but it is a natural thing and if they want more grandkids we have to practice!!!

     To throw another thought in the mix, this year our little one will be in our room in the pack-n-play.

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    Of course.  Unless you're sleeping on a pull-out couch in the living room, what's to feel "weird" about? 

    I just don't know if it is disrespectful?  but it is a natural thing and if they want more grandkids we have to practice!!!

     To throw another thought in the mix, this year our little one will be in our room in the pack-n-play.

    It would only be "disrespectful" if you were loud or left spooge streaks all over the room.  Seriously--your parents know you're having sex.  Odds are, they're having sex, too.

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  • I would not rule it out, but I have not had sex at the IL's.
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    It would only be "disrespectful" if you were loud or left spooge streaks all over the room.  Seriously--your parents know you're having sex.  Odds are, they're having sex, too.

    This and your little one is more than likely going to completely asleep and blissfully unaware of the fact that you two are having sex.

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  • We have only stayed at MIL's house twice- once before we were married and once afterwards. Both times MIL tried to make us sleep in separate beds (there are bunk-beds in the guest room along with a Full bed), which was understandable when we weren't married, but didn't go over very well after we said "I do".

    With that being said we have never had sex there. Not because I thought it was wrong, but because we just didn't feel like it. 

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     To throw another thought in the mix, this year our little one will be in our room in the pack-n-play.

    Well then I think they already know you two aren't virgins.

    I think its only disrespectful if you make a ridiculous amount of noise.

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  • My sister calculated that child #2 may have been conceived at my parent's house Embarrassed

    That said we usually don-t just bc we are tired, not sleeping as well, etc + have to walk out into the hall to use the bathroom after and I don't want to chance running into anyone!

  • We wouldn't.  But neither of our IL's we would never sleep over, we live less then an hour away from both sets. 
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  • Honestly- it would depend on how long we were staying.  A night or two - probably not.  A week?  Probably.
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  • If the mood strikes, why not? We're married. I guess I don't understand why this question is even asked. Sex is apart of relationships...its natural. I think its okay as long as you aren't loud and crazy to where the in-laws can hear. They know we have sex so it shouldn't be a shocker. 

    Its like with friends who come and stay with us. I don't care if they have sex in my guest bedroom...as long as I don't hear it or have to pick up any condom wrappers after they leave. We're all adults here, so what's the big deal?

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    If the mood strikes, why not? We're married. I guess I don't understand why this question is even asked. Sex is apart of relationships...its natural. I think its okay as long as you aren't loud and crazy to where the in-laws can hear. They know we have sex so it shouldn't be a shocker. 

    Its like with friends who come and stay with us. I don't care if they have sex in my guest bedroom...as long as I don't hear it or have to pick up any condom wrappers after they leave. We're all adults here, so what's the big deal?

    I agree with this.  Also, I hate when adults use the term "do it".  You can't just say have sex???  Sex isn't a bad word.

  • I've never spent the night at my inlaws house, but I would. Why not?
  • As an adult, I guess I just don't see the appeal in having sex in someone else's house anymore.  So if we were just staying for a night or two, I'm perfectly able to go a few nights without sex.......the act of being in someone else's bed and knowing that my parents/inlaws are a few doors down is a complete turn-off to me.

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  • Well, we are leaving today for an extended weekend at the inlaws 7 hrs away. I want to say, with all the goings on, two thanksgivings (inlaws are divorced) and seeing friends all at the same time, we'll be exhausted come bedtime.

     But hey, I'm not gonna feel bad if we do. :) I like having sex with hubby no matter where it is.

  • Of course. But, never loudly and most times on the floor. I lived with DH's family for a summer while we were dating in college. I'm pretty sure they didn't expect us to spend the summer celibate.
  • My parents and DH's parents live less than 20 minutes away.  We've never slept over at my ILs, and the only times we slept at my parents' was when we were petsitting/housesitting - and they weren't even there.  We did have sex then, but I don't know if I'd be in the mood if they were there.
  • Well, I wouldn't have sex at my ILs house because 1) the room I sleep in is right next to theirs and my FIL is often awake (he had bladder cancer and needs to use the bathroom quite regularly throughout the night) and 2) I actually sleep with my older daughter and not DH at their house (for various reasons, right now it works much better for everyone if I keep her with me and DH and DD #2 are in DHs and BILs old rooms, which are at the other end of the house).

    But if you're comfortable with it, why not as long as you keep things discreet?

  • No.  My inlaws are local, so we've never stayed there and even if we did, his mom is a night owl and would hear us.  Yucky!  We have had sex at my folks house (they were at church!  LOL).
  • Yes, we have in the past and we will again if the mood strikes.  We're married adults, we just make sure we're quiet so as not to wake the whole house.
  • We don't at my ILs, but that's because I don't think my MIL ever changes the sheets, so getting naked seems gross.   We do at my parents though.
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  • um, no......we don't stay longer than a night or two though. We can definitely hold off until we get home. 
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    image TNIrishGirl:

    If the mood strikes, why not? We're married. I guess I don't understand why this question is even asked. Sex is apart of relationships...its natural. I think its okay as long as you aren't loud and crazy to where the in-laws can hear. They know we have sex so it shouldn't be a shocker. 

    Its like with friends who come and stay with us. I don't care if they have sex in my guest bedroom...as long as I don't hear it or have to pick up any condom wrappers after they leave. We're all adults here, so what's the big deal?

    I agree with this.  Also, I hate when adults use the term "do it".  You can't just say have sex???  Sex isn't a bad word.

    Pretty sure i said SEX all the other times in my post, I just changed it up for the question!

    And I am sorry that you didnt understand the question but there were lots of ppl that said they would never do it so obviously there is a difference in opinios on it.  I was just wondering if there were other couples out there that did this. 

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