Do you push the subject with them? ILs talk it up about visiting, but have made zero effort to do so. It is not an aversion to travel - they fly to Asia every year to visit MIL's family. We had hoped that they would schedule a layover in Tokyo on one of their Asia trips, but they haven't now for 2 years in a row.
Until now, the position has been that they are always welcome at our house but we don't push the issue - we assume they are adults and will visit us if they really want to.
MIL just emailed and asked for ideas what to get DH for Christmas, and I replied that he would love for them to visit.
Now I am torn - I am relieved that I finally brought it up, but I also feel a tiny twinge of guilt because really my intention was to make her feel guilty about not visiting. Also, if they really don't ever visit, I am worried DH will feel really bad (he knows I told her he wants them to visit).
OK - I wrote all that and now I don't really know what I am asking. I guess maybe for commisseration and ideas how you got your parents/ILs to visit?