So my mom has been involved with a married man for 1 1/2 years. She is a widow-my dad passed away 3 years ago and this man is one of her clients.
He has a family in VA ( 2 small children) and an older son from a previous marriage living in NYC.
My brother and I have been upset by her behaivor for the entire time she has been doing it. Most of the time we just turned a blind eye and were amibical with her. But there have been some instances where she has hurt us by blowing us off or her sisters and we really can't take her actions any more.
I know she is an adult and should be able to do what she wants to do-But at what expense?
Her sisters have been hurt by her but just stand by her.
She is saying that my brother and I are trying to control her..we are not-we just don't like the guy and the way he thinks. We would be thrilled for her to find someone who wasn't married to be with.
So I ask..how would you feel? I feel like I lost the mother that I always knew..I feel like she tells lies and how do I trust her now?
Do I let her continue with her behaivor and act like it doesn't bother me when it sure does? Or do I write her off?? or what else??