I came home from work later than usual last night (around 6) and headed straight to the kitchen to make dinner because I know that DH doesn't like to eat dinner late. He was out doing something for the house and I figured by the time he got back, we can eat.
He got back and I put the food in the oven to bake for 20 minutes and told him I was running upstairs to shower. There were a ton of dishes out.
I come back down to him playing poker online. Dishes everywhere. I started washing the main pots because I had a few minutes left before the food was ready. He didn't say a word. We had our dinner and I got up to wash the dishes.
Generally, he washes the dishes (what I use to cook and what we use to eat) after dinner. But, I figured that instead spending time doing all these dishes after dinner...he could have done the first part while I was showering instead of playing games and then we could have had more time together after dinner.
I told him it would have been nice if he washed the dishes before dinner. He said "then why didn't you ask me to...you know I would have done them". "Why do I have to ask you to?" He says "if you wanted them done at a different time than I normally do it...that's a preferance and you have to tell me". Then he asks if there's anything else wrong (as if that wasn't a good enough reason). I told him that it isn't a big deal...it's just would have been nice when I get home from work and rushed to make dinner, to not come down to see him playing games while there are all these dishes out.
He got mad because he said I made it sound like he sits on his @ss and doesn't do anything, which I assured him that has never been the case and that's not what I meant. He's always helpful...but with all those dishes out, knowing I'm going to come back and wash them...it would have been more helpful if he did them before.
Am I totally off here? My whole point was that it would have been nice. It wasn't mandatory and it didn't mean that he never did anything. He turned it into this big issue. We didn't finish the conversation and haven't spoken about it since last night (we are speaking though).
I would like to bring it up to him tonight just explaining what I meant, but I'm wondering if it's worth it. Should I just drop it?