This Wall Street Journal Article talks about the small lies we tell to our partners.
So what do you think? Are white lies ok? If they are, what do you lie about?
From the article, here are a few of the white lies the writer found people make:
We fib to avoid conflict. To gain approval. To save face. Or just to be kind. (Show me a man who tells his wife she looks fat, and I'll show you a man headed for a night on the couch.)
Speaking of men, they didn't exactly line up to be interviewed for this column. I asked hundreds of them about the little fibs they tell their wives or significant others. And here's what I got: radio silence.
The women I queried yammered on and on. They giggled as they told of lying to?or withholding the truth from?their partners about their dress sizes, the cost of their hair highlights, whether they got Botox injections or how much reality TV they watch.
"You mean the old 'new clothes out of the Nordstrom shopping bag into the cleaner's plastic garment wrap before you come into the house' trick?" asked a human-resources executive in San Francisco, who has been married for 37 years. "Well, obviously I plead guilty."
One woman told of ordering take-out food as a newlywed, then dumping it all in pots on the stove before her husband came home from work. Another said she waited three years before telling her husband she had dropped one of the diamond earrings he'd given her down the sink. (Each time he asked why she wasn't wearing them, she claimed they hurt her to wear.) Yet another told of a friend who pockets the money her husband gives her for a housekeeper and does the cleaning herself.
Many women I spoke with seemed almost proud of the cleverness of their shams. So why wouldn't any men cop to stretching the truth from time to time? Intrigued, I asked them.
The answers poured in. (Promising anonymity helped.)
"What don't men lie about?" quipped one man I asked.
"For men, all lies are big," explained another.
"I don't lie. I tell the truth ... slowly," said a third.
And there were others: "Guys constantly feel like they are being called into the principal's office. That's why we lie."
"Most of my buddies tell very large white lies, and in order to really keep the peace, those cannot be disclosed!"
"It's not a lie if you believe it ('Seinfeld''s George Costanza)."
Pressed for specifics, my male sources finally owned up to fudging the truth about working late (to meet friends at a bar, sneak in a ballgame or just take a walk alone). They also said they fibbed about how much they drank at a party, how fast they drive, whether they find their female friends attractive, how much they like their significant other's cooking or outfits?"After she's changed 10 times, you'll say yes to anything to get out the door"?and yard work.