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I'm completely freeking out

I just got the most disturbing email from an anonymous person telling me that my husband is cheating on me. I'm shaking and freeking out right now. I'm in SoCal right now and he's at home and I talked to him on the phone and I'm just freeking out. 

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  • wow - I'm so sorry to hear that. That is evil of this person to send you an anonymous email. Don't over react...take it easy to talk to your hubby first. Do you have any reason to believe the email...then go from there.

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  • what???  How strange.  Ok, take a deep breath...  chances are it's nothing to worry about- just someone playing a prank or something.  What did DH say?

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  • That's horrible! Did it seem just like a random note, or were there specifics? It sounds like a terrible joke and I'm sorry someone would do that to you!
  • Why would someone send something like that! That is horrible!

    Do you have an idea who did it??

  • Im so sorry sweetie. Hopefully it is just a joke but a nasty one at that, ((hugs))
  • Take a deep breath! Talk to you DH... Has he given you reason to believe this?
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  • I talked to him. He talked me off of the ledge. I just don't know what else to say. I just can't fathom why someone would do something that evil. I don't feel like answering a bunch of questions right now about it. I just want to forget about it. I chose to delete the email rather than replying to it and asking why the f*ck they would do that.
  • Oh talk to your DH. Im sure this is just a sick joke

  • I can't help but wonder if this is a nestie that I have wronged. If that is the case, well, I hope it's not. I will have to stop being a part of this otherwise supportive community.
  • try and relax....talk to your DH.

    If it is true, the person who sent the email probably wants to remain anonymous for a reason...either they don't want you to kill the messenger..or they are more involved.

    If your DH has given you reason to believe this may be true...then start looking into it....check the cell phone bill...a number that is called or comes in very frequently...high text messages, etc.

     

    I am so sorry that you are going through this (whether it is true or not)...it is not a fun thing to hear or deal with.  Just try and relax....

     

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    I can't help but wonder if this is a nestie that I have wronged. If that is the case, well, I hope it's not. I will have to stop being a part of this otherwise supportive community.

    Do you think a nestie would really do that?? I really hope not...that is absolutely horrible and if I found that to be true, I would probably be out of here too....I can't imagine putting someone in that much pain...how cruel. 

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  • That's f'ed up! I would try to put it out of mind (which you seem to be doing-kudos for that!). I'm really sorry that happened Sad
  • Amy - honey, I'm so sorry this is truly messed up. I'm glad DH talked you down - he loves you! This sounds like an awful, terrible, mean, hurtful trick by god only knows who. I know how hard this must be for you. We're here if you need. Do you want to try and get a drink when you get back - maybe Monday since DH will be golfing?
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  • I really hope it's not a nestie.

    But now that you mention it, do you go to any national boards?

    I couldn't imagine it would be anyone from this board.

    I'm sorry someone's being so cruel. 

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  • That is just horrible and I'm hoping just a cruel joke and not true at all. ?I especially hope it isn't a Nestie that sent it.?
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  • Wow, I'm sorry. I would be a bit freaked out too even if I knew it was a prank. I think you did the right thing by not responding to their email.
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  • I really, really hope it's not a Nestie.  I think you were right not to engage them, though, whoever the heck it was.
  • I would wonder who would do that - was it a personal e-mail addy that the nest has or what kind?  If your DH was I think you'd have a gut feeling about it, I wouldn't worry about it Amy, he loves you.  He'd fess up if it were true.
  • I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.  This is just plain vindictive and wrong. I hope it isnt a nestie.  That is majorly crossing the line.  Like the others said, if your gut is telling you he is, look into it, otherwise I would move on from it.  Ignoring the email was the right thing to do. 
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    I would wonder who would do that - was it a personal e-mail addy that the nest has or what kind?  If your DH was I think you'd have a gut feeling about it, I wouldn't worry about it Amy, he loves you.  He'd fess up if it were true.

    I am totally playing devils advocate here....and I will probably get flamed for it...but if I got this email, I would look into it.  Many times the wife has NO idea what is going on...

    The reason I would look into is for mostly for health reasons...if it is true (I'm not saying it is) you would want to get tested for STDs and decide whether or not you want to try and make your marriage work.  Many married couples go through this...some stay together (more than you would think) and some divorce.

    I honestly can't believe a nestie would do that....I truly think it was someone entirely apart from this site....but if it was, I would have to think it would be from a national board...not the local board.  I just can't even begin to fathom someone who do this though.
     

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  • It could be someone using you to get back at your DH, like a disgrunteled employee or something.  If the email did not give any details like who he is supposedly cheating with etc.  I think it is safe to say it is a cruel hoax.  Someone is messing with you and your DH.  FWIW, I've always thought you were a kind, fair, supportive, and no-drama member of the nest community.  I can't believe someone from here would be offended by you enough to target you in this way.  More likely you or DH has irked somebody IRL and this is retribution.  I am sorry you are dealing with this BS! 
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  • If it's a joke from that anonymous person, nestie or not, it's sick.

    I'm sorry you have to go through this. 

  • I am really sorrry this happened to you. I would have freaked out the same way. That is a really nasty thing for somebody to do. I would really hate to think it was a nestie that might have done it though.
  • Listen to your gut.  Personally, unless I actually caught DH in the act, not even the pope could convince me he cheated. That's my husband dude. Talk to your husband and go from there.

    Now as far as another nestie being responsible for the email - here's a heads up:  don't ever post where/when you're going  -  I don't for that every reason.  I'll talk about a trip to high heaven but I never reveal to anyone when I'm leaving.  Its a safety issue.

    I totally think its a lurker/nestie - here's why:  Your venting post about not wanting to go to socal to spend time with your Uncle who was recovering from cancer treatment was annoying as hell - just very selfish of you IMHO.  And I'm sure the nestie who sent you the email felt the same way.  You've also posted repeatedly about your marriage troubles - that's fine, so do I - but this board knows ALL of your business.  Its a very lovely and supportive board, but BE CAREFUL.  The world wide web doesn't need to know every detail of your marital issues.  You've mentioned many times that you're a homebody and co-dependent - they obviously used that information to get you where it hurts. Totally fugging sick.  There's no better excuse for making friends IRL - get out there girl! - than in order to avoid internet stalkers.  Whoever sent you this email is very cruel and mean, and I'm sorry this happenned to you. 

  • Amy, there have been instances - ok, maybe just one - of a Nestie pulling some seriously f-ed up $hit via anonymous emails to another Nestie.  And a Norcal-er at that.  So take this with a grain of salt and make up an email address you ONLY use for the Nest.  Don't give out your personal one any longer.
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  • image FaithinSacto:
    Amy, there have been instances - ok, maybe just one - of a Nestie pulling some seriously f-ed up $hit via anonymous emails to another Nestie.  And a Norcal-er at that.  So take this with a grain of salt and make up an email address you ONLY use for the Nest.  Don't give out your personal one any longer.

    wow - that is really F'ed up...I hope that person isn't around anymore. Well, I guess we just never know...there are always lurkers on the board.

     

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  • image FaithinSacto:
    Amy, there have been instances - ok, maybe just one - of a Nestie pulling some seriously f-ed up $hit via anonymous emails to another Nestie.  And a Norcal-er at that.  So take this with a grain of salt and make up an email address you ONLY use for the Nest.  Don't give out your personal one any longer.

    Agreed.  I've been around since 2005 (not so much anymore due to work unfortunately) and I remember a really horrible instance in 2006(?) where a nestie had anonymous emails sent to her co-workers giving details about what she posted on the nest (including stuff she had said about her job).     This stuff happens online, so it's important to be as discreet as possible about posting personal information, especially your personal email address.

     

     

  • I'm coming into this way late, but I'm so, so sorry this happened to you - absolutely AWFUL. ?It makes me so sad to think a Nester would do this - never mind just anyone doing this. ?So unnecessary and so hurtful. ?I hope you're able to make peace with the situation, and know that there is a large core of Nesters that support you and will rally around you the best we can in an online setting. ?

    I 2nd - or 3rd - the notion of removing any private information. ?It can be so seemingly harmless, but it's always better to be safe.?

    Hugs, and hope your week starts out much better!?

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