Earlier this week I was late coming home (7:00-ish), I called and asked DH to make dinner since I'd be to tired to do it by the time I got home...*Yes, he waits for me to do it everyday* [it was very simple but he ?made? it non-the-less] due to my stressful work day and being stuck in traffic for 2 hrs ? after dinner I just wanted to crash on the couch! I had no energy. DH asked "Are you going to clear THIS?" since ?I did everything else?. I guess I should have mentioned that I did ask him to do it because I'm tired and he said that he did it yesterday and he doesn't care if it sits there and rots - he's not touching it. Hence my snarky comment... and responded that if we?re counting the number of time he has been lying down vs. me cooking/cleaning ? I?d win. He then made a comment along the lines of how I?ve been slacking lately?
To make the story short, it ended in me crying and yelling that he doesn?t know how hard it is when I?m trying my best to do what I can. It?s hard! And to have this extra pressure of the ?perfect? wife isn?t real and not helping me out! I wanted to get some advice or suggestions as to how to make him understand that I?m not trying to be lazy, I already feel totally useless. I can?t clean my house in 1 day like I used too or in 2 days and I?m not HUGE yet. What does he think it?ll be like then? [sigh]
This happened on Wednesday and we?re still not talking ? ok well were talking but you can hear the anger behind the answers. It?s not resolved. I?m not sure if anyone else has gone through this? DH?s mom did everything for him ? EVERYTHING and so did I, to a point. He?d occasionally help clear the table, help with dinner & laundry and sometimes vacuum and that?s an accomplishment to him. So I feel like I?m letting him down not being able to keep everything ?perfect? like before.
I feel inadequate but at the same time I?m angry that I?m felling that way to begin with.
Thanks for letting me vent ? I feel so down because of this