I have been lurking for a little while and thought that it was time to post. Appologies in advance for any grammatical errors or typos.
My DH and I just got married this March. I don't know if I have post wedding blues, but I am really unhappy. Right before I married him I moved away with him out of state. We're about 400 miles from where I used to live. Anyway, the problem all started with his mom. After a couple months after our engagement (last May), she went to him, started crying, and asked him why I didn't call her mom. She said that I should call her that by now since I've known her for 3 years. So he came to me and told me that I needed to start calling her that. I told him that I didn't know that she wanted me to even call her that and I wasn't really comfortable. He wanted me to do it anyway to make her happy. Whatever, so I did, and I HATE it. I feel like such a fraud when I call her that. Then, a few months later his dad confronted me and said that I needed to call more often (at least three times a week). I call about every other week. I also needed to come over more, with or without DH and go shopping and spend time with his mom. He said that it was my responsibility since their son doesn't call them and I needed to make sure that he does. I needed to tell him to go visit his parents. His dad said I moved away and left my family, now they (DH's) were my family and I needed to act like it. He said he will let me know how I am doing in 30 days. Seriously I thought I was going to sh*t a brick. I looked over at my DH and he is nodding his head in agreement with his dad!
Anyway, I told DH after we left that it was not my responsibility and he was a big boy, that he could call his parents and I wasn't going to remind him like a child. I told him that he really upset me that he didn't stand up for me. He said that whatever his parents ask, whatever family function that was happening, I have to do it and I have to be there.
There are other things that are piling up quick and I think I am going to be really depressed if I don't leave for awhile. Things like, he got extremely upset with me for registering at Bed Bath and Beyond. Even though I asked him in advanced where did he want to register and if he would like to come with me. He said he didn't care, and he did not want to come. It was all up to me. So I spent almost 3 hours in that store registering by myself and after the wedding when we received our gifts he complained that nothing was for him. So I told him to pick out things that he doesn't want and we could return them so he could get something he wanted. Then I find out he spent 1300.00 of our wedding money on his car! He refuses to help out with anything in the house cleaning wise. I told him to pick a room to clean and he freaked out and said he has never cleaned a toilet in his life. Then stormed up the stairs. He said that he works outside and I do the inside. I told him that wasn't fair since we both pay the HOA for our lawn to be mowed. All he does is water the flowers.
Sorry, I was really random, and kind of blurted everything out. I just felt like I was going to explode if I didn't say something. I haven't slept in a long time and I am really upset at how my life is starting out. I hate confrontations. It's a horrible trait of mine. I try not to say anything, but I am getting a little better at standing up for myself. I just don't know if I should get an annulment or not. I am just scared I guess. I don't want to make the wrong choice, but after typing all of this out, I think think that the cons are out weighing the pros now. I feel like I have made a ton of sacrifices. I know he has made some, but I just feel like he wants me to be his mom and not his wife. I feel like I am no longer number one in his life and his family's feelings and demands come first.
Thanks for reading.