Sorry if anyone found my PP offensive. I wasn't trying to hurt anyone's feelings, it's just not something I wrap my mind around all that easily for some reason, and hearing your situations does help me understand.
Anyway. For those of you who eloped or did a courthouse wedding but then did a bigger wedding later, which date do you use as your anniversary? What about for things like business/insurance forms or contracts? I would assume you'd use the legal date for the latter, but I don't know!