DH & I were recently invited to a "Dirty 30" party. Knowing the bday girl, I expected a killer time -- she's a total wild child. Another person was throwing the party, who has always been a Martha Stewart type.
The hostess said we might want to grab some food, since DH eats a lot and usually isn't satisfied with snacks, but everyone else would be OK. After driving almost an hour, we get to the house, which is quiet, and seemingly empty. We go inside and everyone is in the basement, waiting for the bday girl. We stand there (since there were a total of 4 seats) for 30 min, waiting for her to show up with her hubby.
Casual parties - especially for adults - are totally fine. But there was nothing. No music, decorations, drinks (even cups for water), snacks. Half the guests were watching the TV, which was being continuously flipped between stations. Everyone seemed really uncomfortable & didn't really talk.
Even after the bday girl showed up & opened presents, it was the same way. DH & I actually left to get food & came back....same thing. (We didn't stay very long)
It was strange.... like having a birthday party during study hall.