H and I both work full-time, though he has a longer commute and sometimes works longer hours. I usually do most of the cleaning, simply because I'm home more and have a crazy schedule, some days working first shift, some days second. What really drives me crazy is that sometimes I'll get up, clean for a while and then go to work at about 3. By the time I get home at midnight, the house can sometimes look like a tornado went through it... shoes and socks on the floor wherever he takes them off, plates and bowls in the living room, garbage on the kitchen counter, etc. He knows it bothers me and always says he'll try to do better, but it never lasts long.
Knowing that not everyone values neatness and knowing that I'm lucky that this is my biggest complaint, my question is this: What would you do? How do well-adjusted couples handle things like this? Should I just suck it or would that be setting a bad precedent? (oops, that's more than one question....)