Okay, I don't know how to start this but I need help. My boyfriend (yes boyfriend.. not engaged yet but i have confirmation it's coming) and I have been together for years and at the beginning we had an amazing sex life. Over the past two years though I've gone through some awful things (lost custody of my son, stressful job with conflicting hours and then most recently my place of employment filed for bankruptcy and abruptly fired everyone) and have completely lost my sex drive.
I still love my boyfriend more than the world and I find him incredibly attractive, but when it comes to having sex I just cannot get in the mood. This is starting to affect our relationship and no matter how many times I tell him that It's not him, I can see him beginning to feel insecure and he doesn't seem to believe that it's not him that is the problem. I know they all say that you should try to do it even when you're not in the mood.. which I do and once we've started I do get into it. It's just the bringing myself to WANT to do it. I WANT to want to have sex. I really do, but I'm just so down on myself and always have so much on my mind that it's hard for me. I was just wondering if anyone had any advice on how to save our sex life?
Oh and before ya'll say it... Seeing a doctor is out of the question, like I mentioned my work went out of business (about three weeks ago) so I have no insurance =(
Anyway, thanks in advance, any help is much appreciated!