Ok, I really just need to know if I am being unreasonable about this, or if I do have a reason to be upset. DH thinks I am just being silly and overreacting. I DO tend to overreact about things, so am looking for opinions!
My pet peeve is when people just drop by my house uninvited or without at least calling ahead. The major culprit of this is, of course, my FIL and MIL. We moved into our home back in June, and are now about 7 minutes from my ILs house. Before that we were about a half hour away, so never really had this problem. Now that we live so close and have a new baby they want to come over all.the.time. This started happening back in June, and I told DH to ask them to please call ahead if they wanted to stop by. Sometimes I like to walk around without pants on (haha), or will be in the middle of a nap, etc. Nowadays I am often pumping and my breasts are exposed. Anywho, DH asked them to call ahead and after that they were pretty good doing so. They have a key (DH gave it to them) and so ring the doorbell, unlock the door, and walk in.
Sunday my parents were in town for Xmas, and we invited my aunt and uncle over for lunch. We had just sat down and were literally lifting our forks when the doorbell rang and my ILs walked in. I was really surprised because I had not received a call telling me to expect them. They had been at Sam's Club and bought us a large box of diapers, wipes, and a few things for the freezer - which is fabulous and I am incredibly grateful that they did so. I was irritated, however, that I had to leave my guests at the table waiting to eat. My ILs asked me if I had room in the freezer for the thigns they brought. I quickly looked in the freezer, saw there was little to no room, and frankly didn't have time to unload and reorganize the entire thing. So, I handed ILs the boxes and said I didn't have room, and went back to my other guests. ILs proceeded to reorganize my freezer themselves. I should mention that we didn't ask them to bring the items for the freezer, they decided to pick them up for us on a whim.
Yesterday MIL told DH that her and FIL were upset because I seemed very unwelcoming. Apparently I was kind of short with them about the freezer issue, and just kind of impolite in general, and they were hurt. Looking back, yeah, I probably was a little short with them. I told DH that I was extremely flustered because I was trying to entertain other guests and had I received a call in advance, I could have been much more prepared. I mean, I didn't have time to reorganize my freezer at that exact moment?!! I really, truly appreciate that they brought over the baby things and food, but they also ignored my request for a call in advance.
DH says I need to calm down and not worry about people dropping by unannounced. He's basically telling me that wanting a call in advance is unnecessary, most people don't mind unexpected guests, and that I can't stop people from doing it, and . Well, of course I can't stop people from doing it, but if I specifically asked ILs to call ahead, why can't they comply? DH seems to think that because ILs have bought us some things, they now have the right to enter our home whenever they please.
I dunno, am I being completely unreasonable? Do unexpected guests annoy any of you?