Ok, so my husband has a best friend. Which is all fine and wonderful. They have been friends since grade school.The best friend is married with two young children. His wife and I don't really have a lot in common, but we are civil. Here is the problem. Over the last 9 months or so, there as been a change. The best friend is here all.the.time. When he is working, it's every night after work for 3 to 5 hours. Weekends, he and my husband are gone all day, sometimes for the night. When he is not working (both are in a seasonal industry so winters are slow), he is here all day 5 or 6 days a week or my husband is gone with him. It is driving me absolutely crazy. I like his best friend, don't get me wrong, but I feel like there are three people in the marriage at this point. When he is not here, he texts my husband constantly. If my husband tells him we are spending some time together (movie, going out, etc), he texts AT LEAST 6 times during a 1.5 hour movie. My husband has tried (weakly) to talk to him about it and he just keeps doing it. Things like "I'm coming over for 20 minutes" turn into 10 hours later I am grinding my teeth and about to start throwing things unless he goes home. Sometimes he is here until 2AM or he spends the night.
If I get mad about it and tell my husband he needs to do something to make it stop, he gets annoyed and tells me that I am being unreasonable. I feel like there is no respect given for our marriage at all. If my husband tells him no, then it is the constant texts and sulking until my husband gives in and lets him come over for "just a few minutes" or lets him tag along to run errands.
Does anyone have ANY ideas how to deal with this? I feel like sitting them both down and telling them that it stops...today. And they get one day a week to go do guy stuff.
Oh and on a completely unrelated topic, how on earth do I change my user name??