Hello! I'm new here, but seeking some advice from other married ladies out there. I've been married a year and a half, am 31, and have been at my job for almost 8 years. I started my job and met my husband in the same year, so he's seem me more or less enjoy my job, and knows how valuable it is. Ever since I finished undergrad, I have always known I needed to complete a Masters degree for my market (nonprofits, in Washington, DC) if I ever wanted to find another job, but between not wanting to leave my job and having a serious relationship in the city I want to live, it didn't make a lot of sense to go for my degree until now. I decided a few months after we were married to do a Masters degree program online, since I didn't see the possibility of going to class several nights a week. I'm now well into the middle of my program, and I'm struggling to hold it all together.
Recently, it's become very clear that my husband doesn't understand why I have to complete a Masters degree - he's called it totally optional - and complains that I'm not spending enough time with him because I have to complete schoolwork. The fact that I have to spend long hours and travel for work doesn't help. I'm considering abandoning my Masters because of the lack of support and the strain it has put on us, but I also don't ever see another time to complete it, especially if we decide to have a family. I'm not sure how to demonstrate to my husband that I in fact DO want to spend time with him, and to help him see that this isn't really an option for me if I ever want to move on in my field. Any help or advice welcome! Thank you!