I think I need a Sanity Check. I so badly wanted to host a baby shower for a friend of mine that I've known for about two years and when I offered she seemed really excited. I LOVE throwing showers-- and I often go way overboard-- but in a good way. Well, I sent her 8-10 dates to choose from starting at around 7 months of pregnancy for her...Saturdays and Sundays, alike. (6 months in advance.) I sent her a note to see if she had decided on a date with her family and she came back and said that they can't do a Saturday or Sunday because she has to work Saturday and Sunday nights and won't be able to change work schedules.
I was heartbroken for a few reasons 1) I can't host a Friday night shower with my work schedule-- I travel a lot and won't be able to take a day off that time of year because of that, 2) I don't even think she even looked into swapping a schedule with a coworker.
So, I sent her a note apologizing and saying that I was so sorry but think it's better to pass the hosting baton onto someone who can host an amazing shower for them on a Friday evening and that I would be happy to share any of the other planning items I have already started (invitations, etc.) if they would like, and that if they go ahead with a Friday night shower, and I'm not traveling, that I would be there "with bells on (and an awesome gift, too!)."
Did I do the wrong thing?