I never post on forums but I really feel the need to get some other perspectives on my current situation. Here it goes...
My husband and I have been married for 16 years. He is the youngest of 3 boys. We are all married and we are the only couple currently without children.
His mother and father have a timeshare (which is a total rip-off by-the-way!) and for a while they have kept wanting to plan a large family vacation. I personally think this is a trip that his father just wants to do. They say this is supposed to be a family opportunity to all get together but... well you will see my point...
My husband and I are not in a financial position to do take a vacation, while apparently the other two couples are. We have made it clear that we unfortunately can't plan a trip and it might be a couple of years before we can. The family wants to book the trip for next summer right now so the subject has come to the forefront. My husband and I were included in a series of emails that revolved around the planning of this trip and we were therefore able to see some of the decisions and discussions. The question was asked whether the family should wait a few years, or find a place that maybe we could afford to visit so that my husband and I could possible go. And the responses were that they didn't care either way. That response was indifferent and was very hurtful to say the least. They continued their planning with no regard for maybe being a little sensitive to the fact that we aren't able to go. I requested to be taken off the email chain.
My husband and I have mixed feelings about all of this.
• Wasn't this supposed to be a family trip and if we aren't able to go, doesn't it come across that it does not seem to matter if we are there or not?
• Wouldn't his parents want a family trip with everyone and not have "family" pictures that are missing folks?
• We don't want others to hold up their plans or opportunities, but it seems like a little consideration for different options would have been nice. No?
• We wonder if one of his brothers families couldn't go then the family would have immediately reconsidered the plans because the fact is, they have kids / grandchildren and we don't. Thoughts?
• How they have handled this has sent a message... "It doesn't matter if you are there or not. We are moving forward without you."
Does anyone have any helpful insights or similar experiences?