Kids were away all weeked (woohoo!) but we kinda failed to have any decent quality evenings together due to a couple mishaps and evenings spent with friends instead. So our final night without kids I have an appointment after work but tell my DH "I want some quality time with you. Watch the game, relax, whatev for an hour and then when I'm back let's do something besides just watch TV tonight. I don't care what, just anything. If you need ideas, here are some
if you need, but whatever you want to do, I'm down".
.. I'm gone for an hour and a half...
I come back - "Alrighty, what do you want to do?". He doesn't move from his slumped position watching the game. He simply says "it's my thing" so tell him what I want to do. I say ok, a little disappointed, but agreeable, I name a few to see if there is any sign of life from him. He just sits there in silence half watching the game. So I say nevermind, I'll just clean and go upstairs. I do so with tears streaming down my face. I'm still mad so I go out for an hour alone. He calls but it's to ask "why I'm being this way and that it's not ok". No apology, no empathy, just him trying to get ME to apologize.
I felt SO hurt. We've been married for almost 8 years and it feels awful to think all we know how to do together is take care of our kids or hang out with our friends. Is it so wrong to want a little romance, a little fun, a little something else?
Where did we go wrong? What was supposed to have happened here? What would you do at this point?