Hi all, looking for some words of wisdom from any ladies who have found themselves in a similar situation.
My husband and I have been together for 10 years, married and living together for just under 2 of those years. Being together for so long, we have clearly run out of things to talk about. We have completely different jobs, don't share a ton of similar interests, but get along very well and always have a good time with each other, and until a few months ago, had what I would consider a good sex life (about once a week). I have noticed that my husband had been treating me like on of his buddies, I would bring it up to him and he would tell me that I was being silly, and that just because he doesn't always have news to tell me, or doesn't always want to cuddle doesn't mean he doesn't love me. Well, turns out he indeed has fallen out of love with me and decided to tell me about 2 weeks ago that he just doesn't have any feelings for me. He has said that he is unhappy with our marriage, claims to have no complaints about me as a person or wife, but does find every thing I do to be annoying - because he has let this feeling fester instead of him for a while now and I'm sure is harboring some resentment - which is will not confess to me. He's an awful communicator, by the way.
So, naturally my first reaction was not good. Lots of sadness, lots of crying, lots of asking why, but he has no answers for me, just continues to say "I wish it was the way it was before" and doesn't have much hope or desire to get back to that point. I have asked him to try some things (everything from doing new exciting things with me to get the "spark" back, writing out what he is grateful for, contemplating if there is another area in his life that is also bothering him, have even asked if he wanted to take a break from each other), he refuses to do any of them. I have asked him to speak to someone other than me about it, but he is not comfortable doing that either. I am trying to keep strong, give him space, and not do anything that will annoy him (even though he doesn't tell me what exactly annoys him, it seems to just be everything). But, I am getting very, very frustrated and now angry with him for not trying to work towards putting us back together.
With all that said... help! Has anyone been in this situation or have any advice on how I should handle this? I love him with everything I've got, this is all I think about and I just want to make him realize that he didn't stick it out for 10 years with someone he didn't love - something he seems to have forgotten.