My dad has 2 houses. My fiance & I just moved back to my home town, and we are staying in my dad's rental house. Next door to his house.
My Maid of Honor expressed to me how she doesn't have a home now that her uncle moved into her grandma's house (where she was staying) and had to live with a bf who constantly lied & cheated on her. She couldn't break up with him & live there. I spoke to my parents and she could stay at their house.
She takes 1 class at the college across the street on Tuesday nights. Guess which one night per week she stays?
She has lived there for 5 months. It was only supposed to be a temporary situation. She hasn't broken up with the bf. She shows up to shower & do laundry. She's not looking for an apartment. She stays 2 nights per week if she's having trouble with her bf &/or has a date with someone else. She's apparently not the same person I've known all these years.
My parents complained to me about her every time I spoke with them. My dad started calling her a tramp - To he face!
I found out she'd been lying to me about her family situation. Her mother has a 3 bedroom house (where she stayed for a week with some guy from another state who came to visit her). No roommates. she's welcome there. She sked if he could stay at my parent's house while they left on a cruise. I said no. She asked my parents. They said no. Later she talks to me about it & says "I don't know why it matters, it's not like they'll be here." That made me very angry at her & wonder how she could be so disrespectful. Then the bf starts showing up in the driveway looking for her unannounced. Hello drama. I asked her to start looking for other places to stay after that. After all this, it's obvious she was using my parents, & using me.
I told her in December to start looking for other arrangements. She didn't. And continued staying once per week. She was only interested in having free rent & free utilities. Used my parent's internet, food, electricity, water, etc. Never even offered to help with anything.
I told her 2 days ago "Hey. We noticed you only stay here once or twice per week & it's been this way for a while. It reads like you're using us. I know I told you to start looking for other places to stay back in December, and I think it's time you take action on that."
She said ok & she'll leave & will talk to my parents.
Not knowing exactly what that meant, I figured I'd let my parent's know she would come get her stuff & probably apologize. I told my dad first since my mother wasn't home. He told me "I'm not getting into it! I'm going to say I know nothing about it!" He then laughed at me & accused me of being jealous of her. Just 2 days prior he came over talking badly about her & asked me to get her to move out.
Later, I talk with my mother when she gets home. MOH had moved her things out & I didn't know what was said. I told my mother what I'd said to my dad & expressed that I was very afraid he was going to tell her to stay. The whole situation played out in my mind that day. He'll tell her to stay, She'll stay. He would've chosen her as a daughter over me. After telling me to get her to leave & talking so badly about her, and creating this whole situation, he'll act like "To hell with Kelly. You can still stay here."
I expressed this fear to my mother. She said "No he wouldn't do something like that! You're his daughter & he doesn't even like her!!"
The next day I return a tupperware. They ask for help with his laptop. Afterwards, I ask him what she said when moving out & what he said.
He told her to stay.
I've been reading blogs about getting past family betrayal, but I just don't know what to do.
I can't talk to him because he never lets me talk about my feelings. He yells at me, laughs at me, then walks away & turns the TV up as loud as possible & ignores me.
What would you do?
I haven't talked to all 3 of them since I heard that. I feel like he's made a stance on something that he's created. I don't know what that something is or why he even created this situation. I knew it was coming, though. I feel the need to leave. Like, "enough is enough." Is that irrational?