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  • Hot Fries 4 Lyfe!

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    "People talk about escapism as if it's a bad thing... Once you've escaped, once you come back, the world is not the same as when you left it. You come back to it with skills, weapons, knowledge you didn't have before. Then you are better equipped to deal with your current reality."
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  • What started the bannings?

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  • MrsJenE said:
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    These are freaking delicious!image

    I find it a little sad though they that actually have to mention, "Made with REAL bananas."
    I HATE how food is marketed these days.
    I hate how food is made these days. DH has been watching scary but fascinating documentaries about the food industry on Netflix lately, as I sit there reading and eating super-duper processed cheese curls or something equally sketchy.
    These are my recent obsession (resurrected from my childhood):

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    That brings me back to middle school.  I ate the crap out of those!
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  • Love Hot Fries. I lurk on Parenting so watching it all go down yesterday was interesting. So was the thread of porn pics and gifs late last night. All 1D related.
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  • This story has cats and babies and a happy ending. http://rt.com/news/223027-cat-saves-abandoned-baby/ 
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  • I don't have kids and hate the bump in general because I think most of them are crazy, but I could use some entertainment, so I may go over to lurk.  Where should I start (and by that I mean, which board is the craziest)?
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  • RevJen said:
    What started the bannings?
    From what I understand, there were new guidelines coming out and some moderators told members what the guidelines were going to be and then disagreed with them.  The bannings, from what I have heard, happened from there.  Most of the bannings happened without warning.  And not just SN bans either, but IP bans. It blew up from there because a lot of people were upset about the mass bannings with zero warning.
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    "That depends a good deal on where you want to get to."
    "I don't much care where –"
    "Then it doesn't matter which way you go.”
    ― Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland


  • booknerd226booknerd226 member
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    edited January 2015
    I'm the worst bridesmaid ever.

    I was told this by a bride today. I love my friend, but I absolutely can't stand being around her. I know she is excited but all she talks about is her wedding. We went to dinner tonight and she spent the entire meal discussing colors, and which colors would go with this dress or flower, and which her fiance likes, and which others she likes, and this dress looks good in this color on this bridesmaid but not that one, and flowers and floating candles and tiny hearts confetti and glitter vases and crafting stuff and stuffing invitations and these shoes or these shoes, do you like this wedding wristlet or this one for the day of, chiffon dresses are more "spring" than the satin, but satin is more formal, what color should the accent tablecloth be, etc etc etc etc.

    FOR THE ENTIRE 30 MINUTE DRIVE THERE AND THE TWO WHOLE HOURS AT DINNER. (It took two hours because she would not STFU.)

    SHE IS LUCKY TO BE ALIVE.

    I told her I loved her but could we please talk about anything else and she's pissed at me now. She said I'm the worst bridesmaid ever and I haven't been doing my "duties" by tying ribbons on shit and agonizing over the right color cake plates or whatever. Or going to all of the BRIDESMAID MEETINGS that she plans. Where we discuss all of the above. She is 27 going on 18.

    Ugh I work a full-time job and live 30 minutes away from her.

    This is exactly why I spend my nights like a hermit with my books and cats.
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  • Also, after dinner I dropped her off at her house and went book shopping lol. Poor bank account.
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  • @booknerd226

    She seriously has bridesmaid meetings?!  I would go beserk. I attend enough meetings at work, where I get paid. Bleh. My condolences to you. Sounds like she is being a bridezilla. She will probably look back on this one day and feel like an asshole.

     


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  • I agree with your friend actually. It sounds like you've had your day and f*ck everyone else who gets excited over their wedding. Suck it up, buttercup.

    If you don't like how she's doing things, resign. Don't bitch behind her back. You'd be furious if the tables were turned and you found out she bitched about how much you talked about your master's program. It consumed you so why can't she have something that consumes her?

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  • HoycieHoycie member
    5000 Comments Sixth Anniversary 500 Love Its First Answer
    edited January 2015
    I'm the worst bridesmaid ever.

    I was told this by a bride today. I love my friend, but I absolutely can't stand being around her. I know she is excited but all she talks about is her wedding. We went to dinner tonight and she spent the entire meal discussing colors, and which colors would go with this dress or flower, and which her fiance likes, and which others she likes, and this dress looks good in this color on this bridesmaid but not that one, and flowers and floating candles and tiny hearts confetti and glitter vases and crafting stuff and stuffing invitations and these shoes or these shoes, do you like this wedding wristlet or this one for the day of, chiffon dresses are more "spring" than the satin, but satin is more formal, what color should the accent tablecloth be, etc etc etc etc.

    FOR THE ENTIRE 30 MINUTE DRIVE THERE AND THE TWO WHOLE HOURS AT DINNER. (It took two hours because she would not STFU.)

    SHE IS LUCKY TO BE ALIVE.

    I told her I loved her but could we please talk about anything else and she's pissed at me now. She said I'm the worst bridesmaid ever and I haven't been doing my "duties" by tying ribbons on shit and agonizing over the right color cake plates or whatever. Or going to all of the BRIDESMAID MEETINGS that she plans. Where we discuss all of the above. She is 27 going on 18.

    Ugh I work a full-time job and live 30 minutes away from her.

    This is exactly why I spend my nights like a hermit with my books and cats.

    I'm terrified of becoming this type of bride. I have been around so many people like this so i know how it feels.  

    It has gotten to the point where my bridesmaids ask me what's going on and they'll send me pics of dresses etc. 


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  • HoycieHoycie member
    5000 Comments Sixth Anniversary 500 Love Its First Answer
    edited January 2015
    RevJen said:
    I agree with your friend actually. It sounds like you've had your day and f*ck everyone else who gets excited over their wedding. Suck it up, buttercup. If you don't like how she's doing things, resign. Don't bitch behind her back. You'd be furious if the tables were turned and you found out she bitched about how much you talked about your master's program. It consumed you so why can't she have something that consumes her?

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    I respectfully disagree, @revjen 
    Every bride is entitled to be excited and talk about the wedding plans etc, but just because you're getting married it doesn't mean you are entitled to the world revolving around you.

    I'm pretty sure you'd be pissed off if every time you saw your bridezilla friend she only spoke about herself and didn't even bother to ask how things in your life were going.

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  • My post was really harsh, I know. I've just been listening to this for nearly a year now and I'm tired of it. I was so excited when she got engaged, and now I feel like I dread talking to her, which makes me feel really guilty. 

    I don't really know what I'm supposed to "suck up" though. I have been. I go to as many of the meetings as I can and I have listened to all of the wedding talk, but it's just gotten to be too much. I don't want to resign because I care a lot about her, which is why I finally told her that even though I care about her I needed a new topic. I actually didn't talk much about school IRL, though it probably came across that way here since I wasn't reading a lot during that time. 

    I never said she can't be excited for her wedding, but I can't even think of the last thing she talked about that wasn't wedding related. Plus, I'm tired of her bitching about us bridesmaids behind our backs because no matter what we do it isn't enough.

    But yes my post was mean. I thought if I finally was just honest with her about it (and I was very nice when I said it) that she would tone it down, but instead she got really mad and wanted to end our dinner early. Hence my venting.
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  • I don't have kids and hate the bump in general because I think most of them are crazy, but I could use some entertainment, so I may go over to lurk.  Where should I start (and by that I mean, which board is the craziest)?
    The people on the bump can be pretty crazy, but this is actually the fault of the bump, not the users. Apparently a lot of ownership/behind the scenes changes have been taking place, and it seems like, in an attempt to mitigate the negative ratings they have been getting on the bump app from users who don't really realize it's a message board, wander in through the app, and wonder why everyone isn't nice to them immediately, the bump PTB set out these new "guidelines" for behavior. 

    From what I understand, when the mods of the various boards gave a heads up to their boards that these new guidelines were coming, BumpMay just started IP banning them left and right. And this happened a) before the new guidelines were even posted and b) after 5pm, so lots of people were gone and didn't realize what was happening. These are mods that did nothing wrong, didn't violate anything, and who have spent countless hours helping to run the message boards on their own time and not getting paid for it. 

    This, of course, made everyone FURIOUS. You can get the gist of it all here. (They keep moving complaints to that board from their original boards, but there is no link to that HQ board anywhere, so no one can find it.) 

    Basically, the whole situation was grossly mishandled and the bump is imploding. It's insanity to watch it go down in real time. 

    I have to say, I really liked my BMB and I'm sad that most of the people I liked have left now. I didn't leave the nest for proboards back when the nest implosion happened, even though all my friends (except you guys) did, and I don't want to do it now, but I also miss my active BMB. This blows, and I'm pissed about it. 
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  • HoycieHoycie member
    5000 Comments Sixth Anniversary 500 Love Its First Answer
    edited January 2015
    My post was really harsh, I know. I've just been listening to this for nearly a year now and I'm tired of it. I was so excited when she got engaged, and now I feel like I dread talking to her, which makes me feel really guilty. 

    I don't really know what I'm supposed to "suck up" though. I have been. I go to as many of the meetings as I can and I have listened to all of the wedding talk, but it's just gotten to be too much. I don't want to resign because I care a lot about her, which is why I finally told her that even though I care about her I needed a new topic. I actually didn't talk much about school IRL, though it probably came across that way here since I wasn't reading a lot during that time. 

    I never said she can't be excited for her wedding, but I can't even think of the last thing she talked about that wasn't wedding related. Plus, I'm tired of her bitching about us bridesmaids behind our backs because no matter what we do it isn't enough.

    But yes my post was mean. I thought if I finally was just honest with her about it (and I was very nice when I said it) that she would tone it down, but instead she got really mad and wanted to end our dinner early. Hence my venting.


    @booknerd226 - IMO, you weren't harsh at all. This is how you feel.  
    You're allowed to vent and this is the forum that is supposed to allow you to do so.  If you've been the supportive friend for a year and change- you've been more than a great BM.

    Just because you're getting married, it doesn't mean you should stop being a friend.

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  • My post was really harsh, I know. I've just been listening to this for nearly a year now and I'm tired of it. I was so excited when she got engaged, and now I feel like I dread talking to her, which makes me feel really guilty. 

    I don't really know what I'm supposed to "suck up" though. I have been. I go to as many of the meetings as I can and I have listened to all of the wedding talk, but it's just gotten to be too much. I don't want to resign because I care a lot about her, which is why I finally told her that even though I care about her I needed a new topic. I actually didn't talk much about school IRL, though it probably came across that way here since I wasn't reading a lot during that time. 

    I never said she can't be excited for her wedding, but I can't even think of the last thing she talked about that wasn't wedding related. Plus, I'm tired of her bitching about us bridesmaids behind our backs because no matter what we do it isn't enough.

    But yes my post was mean. I thought if I finally was just honest with her about it (and I was very nice when I said it) that she would tone it down, but instead she got really mad and wanted to end our dinner early. Hence my venting.
    Girl, I feel you. I didn't think you were harsh at all. It's hard to be a friend to someone who only talks about themselves, no matter what it is they are talking about. 
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  • Thank you. I think I'm just shocked that she got so angry with me that she actually wanted to leave the restaurant. We had plans to go to some stores nearby afterward and obviously I ended up going without her. That really hurt my feelings, because I haven't bailed on her just to avoid wedding talk.
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  • MrsJenEMrsJenE member
    Seventh Anniversary 5000 Comments 500 Love Its First Answer
    edited January 2015
    RevJen said:
    I agree with your friend actually. It sounds like you've had your day and f*ck everyone else who gets excited over their wedding. Suck it up, buttercup. If you don't like how she's doing things, resign. Don't bitch behind her back. You'd be furious if the tables were turned and you found out she bitched about how much you talked about your master's program. It consumed you so why can't she have something that consumes her?
    I disagree.

    Bridesmaids meetings?  How much more self-centered can you get requiring someone to participate in MEETINGS about YOUR wedding?  Your only meetings should be with your vendors.  While it's an honor to be a bridesmaid, don't turn your bridesmaids into wedding worker bees.  They are not free labor.

    @booknerd226  My nickname is 27 Dresses because I've been in so many weddings.  NEVER ONCE has a bride told me I needed to participate in recurring "bridesmaid meetings."  If they did, I'd lose my everloving mind.  
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  • @booknerd226,I'm sorry she was mad at you. I know wedding planning is exciting, but some brides feel like they have to include their bridesmaids in everything. I was the exact opposite. It was my wedding, and my responsibility to plan it. One of my bridesmaids was super Type A, and stressed me out because she wanted to be filled in on every little detail. I had to respectfully ask her to let me take care of things. Weddings bring out the weird in people.

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    - Gayle Forman
    "People talk about escapism as if it's a bad thing... Once you've escaped, once you come back, the world is not the same as when you left it. You come back to it with skills, weapons, knowledge you didn't have before. Then you are better equipped to deal with your current reality."
    - Neil Gaiman

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  • MrsJenE said:
    RevJen said:
    I agree with your friend actually. It sounds like you've had your day and f*ck everyone else who gets excited over their wedding. Suck it up, buttercup. If you don't like how she's doing things, resign. Don't bitch behind her back. You'd be furious if the tables were turned and you found out she bitched about how much you talked about your master's program. It consumed you so why can't she have something that consumes her?
    I disagree.

    Bridesmaids meetings?  How much more self-centered can you get requiring someone to participate in MEETINGS about YOUR wedding?  Your only meetings should be with your vendors.  While it's an honor to be a bridesmaid, don't turn your bridesmaids into wedding worker bees.  They are not free labor.

    @booknerd226  My nickname is 27 Dresses because I've been in so many weddings.  NEVER ONCE has a bride told me I needed to participate in recurring "bridesmaid meetings."  If they did, I'd lose my ever-loving mind.  


    For realz! That's a little much!

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  • MrsJenE said:
    RevJen said:
    I agree with your friend actually. It sounds like you've had your day and f*ck everyone else who gets excited over their wedding. Suck it up, buttercup. If you don't like how she's doing things, resign. Don't bitch behind her back. You'd be furious if the tables were turned and you found out she bitched about how much you talked about your master's program. It consumed you so why can't she have something that consumes her?
    I disagree.

    Bridesmaids meetings?  How much more self-centered can you get requiring someone to participate in MEETINGS about YOUR wedding?  Your only meetings should be with your vendors.  While it's an honor to be a bridesmaid, don't turn your bridesmaids into wedding worker bees.  They are not free labor.

    @booknerd226  My nickname is 27 Dresses because I've been in so many weddings.  NEVER ONCE has a bride told me I needed to participate in recurring "bridesmaid meetings."  If they did, I'd lose my ever-loving mind.  
    LOL the only "meeting" I had was when I took them all to brunch, got them drunk on mimosas, and gave them presents. 
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  • MrsJenE said:
    RevJen said:
    I agree with your friend actually. It sounds like you've had your day and f*ck everyone else who gets excited over their wedding. Suck it up, buttercup. If you don't like how she's doing things, resign. Don't bitch behind her back. You'd be furious if the tables were turned and you found out she bitched about how much you talked about your master's program. It consumed you so why can't she have something that consumes her?
    I disagree.

    Bridesmaids meetings?  How much more self-centered can you get requiring someone to participate in MEETINGS about YOUR wedding?  Your only meetings should be with your vendors.  While it's an honor to be a bridesmaid, don't turn your bridesmaids into wedding worker bees.  They are not free labor.

    @booknerd226  My nickname is 27 Dresses because I've been in so many weddings.  NEVER ONCE has a bride told me I needed to participate in recurring "bridesmaid meetings."  If they did, I'd lose my ever-loving mind.  
    LOL the only "meeting" I had was when I took them all to brunch, got them drunk on mimosas, and gave them presents. 
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  • The meetings are definitely weird. We discuss the wedding. I don't mean to make her sound like a crazy person, but she has definitely become obsessed. She insisted we all go try on BM dresses together, which was fine. Then at our meeting afterward at dinner we discussed the dresses (options, length, fabric, colors) the entire time. I could have gone back to work!
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  • @Young_Love I would be up for a meeting every week if that were the case haha!
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  • The meetings are definitely weird. We discuss the wedding. I don't mean to make her sound like a crazy person, but she has definitely become obsessed. She insisted we all go try on BM dresses together, which was fine. Then at our meeting afterward at dinner we discussed the dresses (options, length, fabric, colors) the entire time. I could have gone back to work!
    Maybe she's having a hard time making up her own mind and needs to hear everyone's opinions?  

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  • MrsJenE said:
    MrsJenE said:
    RevJen said:
    I agree with your friend actually. It sounds like you've had your day and f*ck everyone else who gets excited over their wedding. Suck it up, buttercup. If you don't like how she's doing things, resign. Don't bitch behind her back. You'd be furious if the tables were turned and you found out she bitched about how much you talked about your master's program. It consumed you so why can't she have something that consumes her?
    I disagree.

    Bridesmaids meetings?  How much more self-centered can you get requiring someone to participate in MEETINGS about YOUR wedding?  Your only meetings should be with your vendors.  While it's an honor to be a bridesmaid, don't turn your bridesmaids into wedding worker bees.  They are not free labor.

    @booknerd226  My nickname is 27 Dresses because I've been in so many weddings.  NEVER ONCE has a bride told me I needed to participate in recurring "bridesmaid meetings."  If they did, I'd lose my ever-loving mind.  
    LOL the only "meeting" I had was when I took them all to brunch, got them drunk on mimosas, and gave them presents. 
    DITTO.

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  • Hoycie said:
    The meetings are definitely weird. We discuss the wedding. I don't mean to make her sound like a crazy person, but she has definitely become obsessed. She insisted we all go try on BM dresses together, which was fine. Then at our meeting afterward at dinner we discussed the dresses (options, length, fabric, colors) the entire time. I could have gone back to work!
    Maybe she's having a hard time making up her own mind and needs to hear everyone's opinions?  
    I didn't think of that! That could definitely be true. It's so awkward though because none of us know each other outside of the wedding and whenever we try to get to know each other she wants us to "cut the chit chat". (She's really not so bad, I promise! She's just turned into a different person at this point.)
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  • Hoycie said:
    The meetings are definitely weird. We discuss the wedding. I don't mean to make her sound like a crazy person, but she has definitely become obsessed. She insisted we all go try on BM dresses together, which was fine. Then at our meeting afterward at dinner we discussed the dresses (options, length, fabric, colors) the entire time. I could have gone back to work!
    Maybe she's having a hard time making up her own mind and needs to hear everyone's opinions?  
    Oof.  I remember the last thing I wanted during the process was yet another person's opinion.  LOL!
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