I've just signed up as I need somewhere to vent! 14 years ago my husband, myself and 3 young children were renting with the view to buy somewhere. He suggested we buy somewhere with his parents - we had no choice actually as they were living with husband's sister. She got married, new husband said he wouldn't live with them (smart guy) so they needed somewhere to live. Cue us. Husband's mother put a substantial deposit in , as did we. We bought a place with 2 seperate homes, 1 large 4 bed house, and another smaller one. They are literally 5 steps away from each other. Condition was they would pay a LITTLE bit of rent and help towards bills they used.
3 years ago, one of the in-laws went into a home due to poor health so now we have one left. Living 5 steps away. That meant the remaining in-law was present for every evening meal - which I began to resent - I was never cooked for and I'd been doing it for years for them. It also meant that suddenly the help with the mortgage came to a complete halt!! Not a word, nothing. So now I'm feeding and paying everything.
14 years on , I've had enough. I am suffocating just knowing inlaw is there. EVERY day. They are very passive which sometimes is extremely annoying as I can never say they are rude, derogatry or mean. It's just so passive. It's making me ill and I really don't want anyone there at all anymore. We've lived as a 'normal' family for just 4 years of our marriage. Crazy! I am feeling so resentful and have done for many years now. If I talk about this with my partner, he says he'll change it - and he would - but I say No as then I'd be the bad guy in the situation and I couldn't live with myself knowing I was the catalyst for making them move out. So I'm stuck! I don't go over there any more as I can;t bear to see the in-law. I can't bear to hear them talking either - I just completley avoid it all together.
Arrrrhhhh Rant over.