I always get nervous when my fiancé's parents and five siblings (and sometimes his 2 y.o. cousin) come over because they always make a huge mess! They try to help clean up, but I'm so particular about how I keep my home and how I like it cleaned, so I end up cleaning after they leave anyway. They're coming over for the day tomorrow (my fiancé is off work and I work until 3 pm), and they're going to have lunch at our house. We just bought a new townhome and it's not exactly adequate space to entertain an additional 7-8 people, nevermind the fact that we've only been there about a month and are still settling in. How do I handle this? I have the tendency to try to control the situation and I come off as rude to them because I don't want them to just make a mess and think it's ok. My fiancé won't enforce how I feel because, well, he's a guy and makes a huge mess himself -- and he's very defensive of his family and basically lets them do whatever they want. Help!