Upstairs from me are my brother, his live in and the live in's DD.
They have been living there since end of September. DD is 12.
In this entire time, I have not seen DD venture out of the house alone -- not to go to the library or teen center or even to take a walk to get some air and some sunshine and some exercise. Apparently she partakes in no after school endeavors.
Live In picks her up after work lets out and DD comes straight home with her.
It is now summer vacation and that kiddo spends all her time alone in the apartment.
I don't think the kid has any friends.
I can't say anything to Live In about DD spending all that time alone, even out of concern --- I had it out with Live In over another incident but that's another story.
I can't see how a parent doesn't think this isolation or whatever it is you call it is healthy or nomal for a 12 year old girl. They are active in their house of worship; you mean to tell me there's no tween program there or a religious studies group for yungsters? I find that hard to believe...and if there is the kiddo isn't active in that, either.
Her school is a good one and surely there must be a chorus or science club she could have joined. Nope.
The only time that kid leaves the premises is with her mother and/or Bro -- never alone.
She needed intervention when this began --- our town also has many activities over the summer for kids her age; we have summer camps, swim lessons, twee nights at the pool and rec center, arts and crafts, and others --- sign her up for something like that. Or send her to camp for the summer; Live In and her xH have the financial means and more to do so.
And if I say something to LI, I'll start a war. I* might say it to Bro, though: "Doesn't DD have any friends? Why is she not with kids her own age? She needs a social life, too" and who cares what he thinks.