my husband and i have fought alot this past year. i feel like he doesn't support me when it comes to his family. he says he supports me, but then he turns around and blames me that he has to go against what they say. he blames me for having to support me against his family. they have always told him what to do, and he has always just mindlessly gone along with it. the moment i stood up for myself against them trying to run my life (after 15 years with him), he's decided that i am to blame, and i am to be held accountable for not just "going with it" as he does. his family has numerously interfered in our relationship to the point that he's gotten verbally aggressive with me, emotionally distant from me, emotionally beligerent with me. i know he's struggling with having to be thrown in the middle of us all, and he's refusing to take any form of action to make things better. he feels not doing anything is the best solution. his lack of talking about things has caused so much anger and rage inside of him, alongside his depression, that he's physically lashed out in the house, breaking and throwing things. he denies this of course despite the proof i have. He finds it easier to pretend that this never has happened. How can I help fix a man who’s so broken and struggling inside of himself? I love him and I want to fix our marriage. I have always been willing to fight for us. he gives up because he just doesn’t know how to commit to things. He’s refusing counseling. I think he’s got some serious issues and I truly want him to look at that and fix them for himself before he self destructs in a dangerous manner.