My dad got remarried in December, while on an overseas trip, to a woman I
have come back now and are having a reception. I'm torn whether to
attend or not. I do not support the marriage at all. My dad was psychologically abusive, which is why we moved, he never
paid any child support, and rarely had anything to do with me through these years,
even though we only lived a mile apart (until I went to college). But now
he seems to want to rekindle something.
I don't want to hate him.
He is my dad, after all. I feel like going is just my "giving up" to
family pressures that I'm being irresponsible and spiteful if I don't
go. I feel like I want to salvage something. Yet I'm afraid by going,
that I'm signaling my acceptance of this marriage and this woman, which I
do not. My mom, of course, isn't going, and is trying to remain as
neutral as she can and supportive of me in whatever I choose, but I know
deep down it's hurting her if I go. But then again, her relationship
issues with my dad are theirs, not mine.
I'm so torn. Does anyone have any advice or ideas that might help me with this quandary?