I have been seeing a widower (who lost his wife to cancer in 2007) for 2 1/2 years. We are extremely compatible, we share common interests, we enjoy each other's company, we have a lot of fun together! We are considerate of each other and of other people, we have many friends who enjoy our company! We never argue, and we treat each other with respect. Sounds perfect, right?
Wrong! His two adult daughters are in their 30s and they HATE ME--for no reason! I have been NOTHING but nice and respectful to them, but they cannot stand me! They are unbelievably RUDE, vicious, and hateful to me! They make up things about me and they text me mean messages and e-cards. I have HAD it with their disrespectful horrible behavior. My boyfriend tells them, "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. I don't want to hear another bad word from you about her." But they continue to torture me. I am a kind sensitive person, and this is ruining the beautiful relationship we have. Their father says he can't MAKE THEM like me and he can't control them.
I told him that I can't take it anymore, and have not seen him in the past 5 days. Any advice on how he can punish their horrible behavior? I suggested that he reprimand them and tell them he does not want to be around them until they can change their behavior, withhold their negative and hateful remarks, and behave like rational adults. He said he couldn't threaten to not see them--because they are his KIDS!