Do I chose my niece&nephew, or my brother?
B has 2 kids, of which he never sees. Reasons vary and honestly I don't find them important anymore because I have my idea of why and I believe me over him. B hates his ex with a "passion of a 1000 suns" (<--quoting a movie.) I once read "your hate for each other must not outweigh the love and well being of your kids." - - of which I strongly believe that because B hates Ex so badly they refuse to work together. REFUSE.
Ex contacted me. At first she was bashing B left and right and I stepped up and told her to knock it off. She might be PO'd at him but doing this wouldn't change a darn thing about child support or anything else. Ex knows I have a son and tried asking what I would do if DH acted like B. I said it was irrelevant and if DH did I would be chasing my lawyer for CS not bashing him to his friends/family on FB. - Long conversation ensued, of which she "calmed down" and presented me with her mailing address and telephone number. Ex claims she wants us to have a relationship with niece&nephnew. She posted pics of them and we spoke about them liking school. She thanked me for calming her down and talking some sense into her. I seen hope, but I wont be tricked.
B SWEARS Ex is always using trickery. She could, and I wouldn't put that past her. BUT... what if she does want us to have a relationship with them? What if I did send a care package of pictures of us and their other grandparents (my rents.) WHAT IF.....
B found out "someone" has been talking to her. (It was 1 time). He said he has an idea who but he won't confront. From what I gathered from this other party, B is PO'd that we would go behind his back. ... My thoughts - he's been lying this whole time about why he hasn't seen the kids, and he thinks we believe every word he has ever said about Ex. Truth is, I started to believe it years ago but now I'm wondering.
Niece&nephew do not know me from Eve. But I would like a relationship with them. BUT from what I gather B thinks "someone" is against him. Its obvious to me I cannot have both. Do I chose B because - well he's my B and I love him, or do I give Ex a chance and send a care package? (BTW: Ex did tell B that she's been talking to "someone" and used it against HIM. We seen that coming. If she could get us to be involved with the kids she would use it against